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Hello all.
I hope someone can give me some pointers on this one. I have a son & a daughter – 1 who is now 20 & at Uni and stays with me during the holidays & 1 who is 17 at college.
Since my ex and I split back in 2009, I have always taken the kids to the dentists, eye tests, haircuts, out of school clubs etc as my ex always came up with an excuse as to why she couldn’t.
However the final straw is she has refused to take my son to the doctors for a check up on a lingering cough he has.(apparently she no longer has the time to do this!) He suffers with asthma and has allergies, so in the past I have relied on her to provide the inhalers and up to date EpiPens.
Obviously I will sort this out in the short term, but as a long term solution is there any way I can get him registered to my GP practice if he is already registered with my ex’s local GP?
I feel so annoyed that I have to pay her child maintenance because she is seen as the ‘main carer’ who receives the child benefits, but she has always seemed to offer so little practical support. I feel like stopping my child maintenance payments to her because I feel (and have always felt like) I am the main carer. My 17yr old stops with me approx. 133nights / year and he will leave college next year.
Have I just got to swallow it down until my son leaves college? Any opinions would be welcome on this one
Hi,
If your ex agrees to change kids GP address to one local to you, then should be straightforward. Can talk to current GP and ask what process is to change to other GP/dentist.
With Child maintenance, you Don't have long to go until payments finish for good. If paying through CMS then would be bad idea to stop payments. They will take enforcement action and make you pay 20% more
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