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Hi all,
Hopefully a quick one. My ex raised in court that if I refuse to have the children on a Monday (due to my own commitments) she would have to pay an extra amount in childcare per month. I already pay child maintenance for the days the children do not live with me which I assume includes any costs for childcare. Can the court order that in addition to maintenance, I also pay additionally towards childcare?
Thank you in advance
I don't think they can order you to pay more, but the court likes parents who come up with solutions, not problems. That's a battle you are not going to win. They can't order you to pay more, but they can order that the children spend less time with you, which in turn will allow the mother to claim more from you via CMS. Thread carefully.
I agree. Pick your battles wisely.
Hi chaps and thank you for your response. I think my post may have been hastily typed and therefore slightly misunderstood. I'm am not refusing the level of contact proposed (we proposed the same number of days) merely the day one of these falls on because I simply cannot commit to a day where I wouldn t be available to spend time with our children. What would be the purpose of agreeing to a day where they would simply not have any time with me? I proposed an alternative day where they would benefit from my presence rather than my absence. Fundamentally, my question still stands but hopefully now with context that doesn't invite a stance on my proposal rather than the question I was hoping to seek an answer to
Thank you in advance
If you can't commit to a certain day then it's fair enough to propose an alternative
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