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Hi,
I would greatly appreciate some advice in relation to my ex. I have had no issue with her for over 7 years.
Recently she got married to a guy with a drink problem, i have never spoken to the guy ever. But he assaulted me when he was drunk and said to me 'dont worry i will raise your kid for ya'
Because i have had no issue with my ex with years i do not want to escalte tensions again. Im wondering could i approach her solicitor all these years later and ask him to kindly tell her husband to stay away from me that i do nog want any issues going forward.
Or shoulf i just go straight to my own solicitor?
Hello Robbiering,
My personal view would be for you to go to your own solicitor as he represents you.
Your Ex's solicitor represents her and this new issue you mention, involves her.
One solicitor cannot act for two individuals where there is a conflict of interests between the two parties.
Thanks you. I will take that approach
Hi there
From what you’ve said, the solicitor she had at the time, all those years ago, won’t be acting for her anymore, once a case is closed and the bill is paid, that’s the end of the solicitor/client relationship.
You really should have reported the assault to the police, but I can understand why you don’t wish to escalate any tensions. However, your solicitor will most likely say the same. You could request that the police speak to the husband with a verbal warning, asking that they keep it on file but with no further action.
Whatever way you look at it, if you have a solicitors letter sent, or ask the police to have a word, there will be tension created.
If this man has a drink problem, perhaps you do need to take this further, as he could pose a risk to your child.
All the best
Thank you very much for your detailed reply. Im new to this website and i have to say it is outstanding the help and advice that is here. Some men feel powerless or made feel powerless. I just cant believe in this day and age when all the talk in the paper is about womens rights, what about mens rights especially fathers. I sent my own solicitors letter directly to the husband with a warning to stay clear. If i hear anything else involving alcohol abuse at their house i will need to contact social services over the safety of my daughter. Thanks again for your help
No worries... I think you have it nicely in hand anyway. Thanks for your kind words about the forum, it's a great resource for Dads, who seem to have very little in the way of places to go to get advice and support.
All the best
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