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Hi all
I've scoured the forums and gained a little bit of insight into this telephone interview prior to a contact order hearing later this month.
I'm currently contesting an NMO- next hearing is a month after contact hearing.
Just a quick Q of what to expect, and how to be prepared?
I'm guessing elements (DV etc) from NMO will be mentioned? Will they be asking about my background, family etc?
Cheers
Hi there
If they speak to your ex first, it’s a safe bet that she will tell them about the NMO and they would ask you about it.
It’s best to be open with them, as part of the report they will also contact police and local authorities to find out if either of you has any past involvement, they will most likely ask you directly, just be truthful.
Keep the interview child focussed, try to answer questions from your child’s perspective rather than your own... for instance, rather than say “I miss her”, you would say, “we have a very close relationship and she will be missing not seeing me.”
If your ex is a good mother, it’s ok to say that, try not to bad mouth her or enter into [censored] for tat. It’s all about your child.
Stay calm and reasonable, take time to think about your answers and keep them on point and focussed. If there’s anything you want to say, perhaps make a note of it to remind yourself.
All the best
Thanks Mojo
The baby is just over 18 months- I've not seen her since end of 2017 (handful of times)
Lots of spurious allegations, and am still contesting NMO.
Thankfully have same judge for contact hearing that has presided over past 3 appearances.
I made a complaint to them after mine, as I was only given the opportunity to respond to a couple of small minor concerns that the ex had raised, but upon receiving the report only a couple of days before the hearing, she had in fact raised an additional 7/8 concerns that they failed to bring to my attention over the phone. At the end of the interview I was calm and raised no serious concerns of my own - had I been made aware of the long list of false allegations I would have certainly raised the alarm regarding alienation at that point
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