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Hi all,
I'm due in court on Thursday and although I have had a telephone call from cafcass I still haven't received anything else from them! Is this the norm? I would have thought I would have had something from them by now like accusations from the ex or agreement (which I know is highly unlikely) but at least an update of what I said to them and what the ex witch said about things?
Completely normal mate, you'll probs get it Tue, Wed or thursday morning just before court, they like to do that so you have no time to respond.
I'm quite proud of myself I've managed to reply to a post about Cafcass without launching into slating mission :woohoo:
Ok as long as it is normal, Thursday won't be an option as our postie don't deliver till about 11 and my hearing is at 10 at the side of the county lol.
Yeah man It's been known for them to give it you on the morning of the hearing just before you go into court, make sure you have a read of my words of wisdom about the first hearing and how to deal with cafcass at the top of the legal eagle section π
Slim....such restraint! Haha....
jaylee....it's not unusual for them to give it to you half an hour before the directions hearing, my partner got his then.
You can try phoning them and ask them to email it to you but don't be surprised if they say no or don't take your call.
It will be a transcript of what you have both said with a little box at the end detailing their recommendations to the court.
Aaaarrrrggggghhhhhhhh...... Spoken to cafcass today I made the decision to ring them and really wish I didn't now. I now know my ex has been slinging the mud but I have no idea what she has said as cafcass won't disclose anything in the report due to 'privacy and confidential information enclose' they have to seek the approval of the court before I get my copy which won't be until after my hearing!!!! They have said that the court themselves and the respondent (the ex) have copies but I can't. This is complete [censored]! I was even polite to them still after being told this and had a little joke with the officer on the other end of the phone.
What could she have said that's caused them not to be able to disclose me a copy of the s2? And is it my job to prove these accusations are wrong or her job to prove the 'so called fact'
Wishing I never rang them now and went in blind, knowing that I now have those accusations against me of whatever she has decided to say this time I'm beginning to think that I can't do it anymore.
jaylee
Ohhh they are such a bunch of c**ts. They will say because you phoned them that you are controlling and they will use that against you for sure, it does seem a little strange that they are saying they need the court approval before you see it that sounds like utter bollocks but I'm sure someone can advise you better on here.
You can do it don't let your ex win she will love that, fight like a dog mate you've got to be so carefull dealing with that cafcass shower of s**t my ex done the same made up all sorts of [censored] and they believed every word I had and awful s2 and s7 but the clueless c***s actually recommended contact after slagging me off constantly all the way through both reports, twats.
I'm sure peeps will give you some better advice on what you can do but at least the hearings not far away but please read the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section you don't want any screw ups in court mate
Slim
We'll tomorrow is the day when I find out what happens, admittedly it is only the 1st hearing but hopefully I get to hear some positive things and I will hear the mud slung at me.
I am proper sh!tting it to tell the truth but dare I say I have in the justice system????
Well that's what I am hoping she has done, slag me off and playground stuff that I'm too old for now (she's older than me thou) just hoping I get a nice judge
Just be nice as pie to everyone you meet, be cool calm and collected throughout the hearing don't let anything phase you, If and when she starts slagging you off don't nod or shake your head remain composed at all times I tend to just sit there and right notes to distract me when she is speaking not reacting in anyway.
I was absolutely bricking it on my first hearing but once I was there it's not as bad as you think and in a strange ****** up way I'm actually enjoying it now you will find you start to gain confidence too it may feel like your on the back foot for a while but as things progress and you act accordingly you will start to see things turn in your favour π
Good luck for today jaylee, let us know how you get on when you feel up to it π
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