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I have been divorced for almost 2 years.
During school term time,I see my 2 children aged 10 and 12 every other weekend, and take them to school every Thursday morning (10 min car trip). During all holidays I have them 50/50.
Having let the dust settle, and the children come to terms in their own time re the divorce, I am now applying to the court for 50/50 equal childcare and parental responsibility, which will in turn, give the children continuity with BOTH parents, not just biased with mum. i.e. by looking after them from Friday to Friday, taking them to and from school etc ...one week on, one week off.
After 3 No. Mediation sessions (last one in Nov 2016), my ex wife refused to allow a more 'equal' system.... on the grounds that it works now, so why break !? Both children would welcome 50/50 care, as i live 5 minutes away and have a good home for them.
I attended the First Directions appointment last month, and tomorrow I attend the first and only CAFCASS meeting with the Family Court Advisor to put 'my case forward' and demonstrate why I see it would be beneficial to the children to have 50/50 childcare during term time as well as the holidays.
Does anyone have advice of what to expect of this 1.5 hour meeting?
Should i be preparing anything written to submit to them?
My understanding is that after I am spoken to, my ex will also speak on another day with the same advisor. The two children are also spoken to on another date. All the info is put together in a report and submitted to the court next month. My final hearing is in August.
Tomorrows meeting is really important. It is my only chance to defend my case, and the magistrates will simply go with whatever the CAFCASS officer says.
Any advice wouild be appreciated.
Mike
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