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Will CAFCASS are part of social care /women biased team ..will they act neutral in child order process
Will CAFCASS involve before 1st hearing of child order ? If CAFCASS start speaking to my spouse ,police and Social care and form a bad opinion about me with incorrect facts of domestic abuse from my spouse and provide these report to court will it not harm the process of appeal and me proving something wrong what my wife has done...
Can you please share your opinion and experience with CAFCASS...is it worth spending 6 months process for child order or go back to my country ?
It really boils down to how much you want it. I'm in exactly the same boat as you, I'm not from the UK, if it wasn't for the fact I have a child here, I would have been gone by now. The prospect of living away from my family to be bogged down in a foreign country in a system that, perhaps inadvertently, discriminates against men and doesn't value fathers is not really something I would have chosen.
But we are where we are. So it really is up to you and what you want. I had the same exact thought cross my mind during the 1st year of going through the courts. Should I just leave and go back home, and blame everyone else for it ? And I simply could not do it. My child deserves better than that, and I wouldn't have been able to live with myself knowing I had abandoned him. I'm also sure that if I had left, I would have lost him forever. And I know for a fact that children need their fathers. They end up with worst outcomes when their fathers aren't there.
My experience with CAFCASS was not as bad as people make it out to be. The thing is, everyone likes to complain. Go on mumsnet.com and you'll see loads of women complaining that CAFCASS are father lovers. Does that tell you anything about CAFCASS ? No. It tells you that people rather complain than take the hard road.
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