[Solved] Cafcass home visit today

Hi there.....sorry I've only just come on the Forum, how did the visit go?

Hi MOJO I think it went really well the cafcass officer asked me literally everything about my relationship between me and my ex from how we met until the end of the relationship and all the false allegations my ex has been saying! The good points was that she looked at all the abusive messages my ex has sent me and messages stating she would never ever stop me seeing my children that the judge did not want to look at in the first court hearing and took this into consideration as my ex is saying that she is prim and proper!! She said she would mention to my ex that I have this evidence and will be taking this to court and it will go against her! Hoping it will try make her think otherwise into giving me access to my children, One of the best parts about the cafcass officer was that she is going to try persuade my ex into letting me have my children for a couple of hours Christmas day so I can give them there presents as my next court hearing is in January.

Best Regards

Well done, good to hear it went well for you. Keep us updated and let us know if there's anything we can help with.

Well done with the meeting.
Just one question.... Did you not get a CAFCASS officer meeting prior to the First Hearing to discuss your points of view?
I thought as soon as an application goes to Court the CAFCASS officer has to speak to both parents first?

Just interested to know.... Many thanks

I thought you were meant to be all sweetness and light about your ex when talking to CAFCASS, or is it a case you can dish some dirt to help ones cause?

Obiwan you have a telephone interview with cafcass before the first hearing, Simonos its how you word it! The cafcass officer said that i have been verbaly abusive to her and that she didn't say owt wrong to me from her side of the story? i then said it was from both sides and that i took text message evidence into court with me but the judge did not want to look at it? She then asked to see it then noted it all down she even said she will tell my ex that i have this evidence and will use it in court if she wants to carry it on not letting me see my children

Be careful with CAFCASS they are so two faced I still wouldn't say anything against the ex just incase anyone fancies doing so as they can and will proper screw you over.

I thought you were meant to be all sweetness and light about your ex when talking to CAFCASS, or is it a case you can dish some dirt to help ones cause?

there are ways of dishing dirt - make it factual, and don't go on about it. But also praise your ex where you can - that way it's balanced and you are seen not to be simply vindictive. Also don't bother mentioning small details, it's not worth it - just anything that has serious implications for a childs welfare.

ACTD has a great point there one thing i did think worked in my benifit too was that i said i wanted to be good friends with my ex and that no child wants to see there parents fall out