[Solved] Cafcass going to call me. Help.

You need to make the meeting with cafcass about your child, and not about an ongoing dispute with your ex - obviously you need to raise any concerns with the way she may be treating your child, but don't make it about you and your ex.

Hi there

You’ve had quite a time of it! Unfortunately, ex partners making false allegations is more common that you think, so the courts are used to hearing about it.

CAFCASS are very likely to ask you if there has been any police or social services involvement, so you should just be truthful with them. Try not to bad mouth the mother, that doesn’t mean you can’t share your concerns, but keep it reasonable and as actd says, completely child focused.

Best of luck

Thankyou both for your advise. She just needs to realise that we have a child together! And that we should both be focused on that. Someone needs to talk to her about that.
Why do woman do this stuff? I do hope the court will see through her. I would like to have my child come and live with me so i can give her a good childhood. It is also very important for my child to see and have a good relationship with her mum.
They should change the law somehow.

Everybody says that at best i will only see my child once a week. That is not good enough.
Because my child is donor egg, she must be told her identity when she is 7 years old. That her mum is not her natural mum.
I don't know what the future holds right now.

Am I right in saying that a woman who gives birth to a child in the UK is recognised as the legal parent? So if you become pregnant and give birth following IVF treatment, you will be the legal mother of the child.

I’m assuming you’re the biological father...Do you think she feels threatened by that fact, it could explain some of her behaviour.

Child contact once a week isn’t the best a party can hope for, some Dads here have been successful in gaining 50/50 shared care, it depends on different factors, but it’s usually best to ask for more than you would be ok with, as it gives you room to be seen to compromise.

The fall back position for a Child Arrangements Order is alternate weekends and a weekly midweek contact, but that isn’t set in stone.

Did you manage to find another solicitor? If she spoke to the solicitor first, then she is right about the conflict of interest.

It’s best to concentrate on presenting the best case you can, it doesn’t help to think,too far ahead or second guess what the other party is doing, it’s just causes more worry. Stay on course and deal with things as they arise... one steady step at a time.

All the best

I am not an expert but I would concider doing a cross non mol on her. Now This as nothing to do with cafcass. Don't mix then up.
I would bring all those constant allegation and the fact they all been find lies and unfunded and its defamation of your character.
I would issue a non mol against her.

this is the important part
Now cafcass stay calm remain child and child focus write down what you have undergo and how much you focus on your children.
Write down that you have had concern and reported those concerned and that you walked away from someone that in your view suffer from mental health as this is not right and this isn't child focus.
Also make sure that you remain calm and don't say things that you cant prove or make the person feel its about you and her. Its about the children. What is best and how much you strive to support them and the concern.
Children is the priority and if you can highlight the concern and express that you have many proof and reported the neglect and that in your view the cafcass or children service should review this issue as soon as. But don't enter into the she said I said game. They want this as they get funding to open a case.

Now this is my view but clearly by accusing you she now used the silver bullet and have free legal aid and you are up for a good roller coaster. So keep focus and try your best to have them on your side.

Hi, i think i did quite well with the Cafcass call. I took all the advise.
My Solicitor just keeps telling her that i called him first and that is that.
Because my ex is still raising child abuse with Cafcass, my Solicitor advised me to get a Barrister for court anyway.
The Police called me yet again. This time because my ex has reported my Mother for [censored] abuse towards me when i was a child. She also told the police that i have changed my name.
Both these things are again just made up fantasy's in her head.
Cafcass want a section 7 report, and to see both our medical records for mental health issues. And the sarc report. She took My Child down to have her examined. I was so so angry about that. I was being supervised since late November, and she took her down there in December. She has told Cafcass all about it, and that i had Thrush, which i caught from her! A year before my child was born! I always thourghly cleaned my self after that cleared up, so if it was Thrush it wasn't me!
The Cafcass letter also states that the Nursery have concerns about her care of my child.
There is going to be a fact finding? In a couple of months time. My Solicitor said that the Family court Judge will decide if i raped her and abused my Daughter. How can that be? The Judge will also decide if my ex is treating my Daughter badly as well.
My First court date is this Monday. It has taken weeks to get this far. Too long!! My child is being neglected and that little barstead cannabis smoking son of hers is living with my child as well. I put down about a prohibitive steps order to stop him living there.
I'm hoping for a good outcome on Monday.

Thankyou for your support.l

Hi there

Well done on the CAFCASS telephone call. It all sounds very messy, at least you have a solicitor that can manage your case and certainly, as there are some very serious allegations being made, having legal representation is your best bet.

Your barrister will tell the court about her bizarre and untrue allegations to the police, if you can show the court that her assertions can’t be relied upon and they can discredit her in that way, that should help the judge decide in your favour as far as the rape and child abuse.

Yeast infections can happen to any girl and are not considered as sexually transmitted diseases. Whilst younger girls are less likely to get yeast infections, they can happen.

I would say concentrate on your child rather than the mother, if the authorities are concerned about your child’s care that would be an area that your barrister should highlight.

As there is to be a fact finding, a Section 7 wont be ordered until after that I wouldn’t have thought and the judge will want all the information to hand before making any final decisions. This Monday is probably all about case management, ordering further reports etc.

All the best for Monday and do drop by and let us know how you get on.

Hi everyone, so, i am still going. I know it has been months. So many delays in the Court process, and getting the Police reports.
The Cafcas report was in my favour. It showed that she was reported by the Nursery to Social services for her care towards my Child. Namely neglect.
There was a finding of fact in Court last week about her malicious alligation of rape. She commited Perjury, so did her other 2 children. Who were "witneses".
I told the truth throughout. Which matched up with the Police reports. Her evidence did not match, plus they all lied their heads off!!!
I WON. The Judge also said that i was no threat to her or my child.
So back to Cafcass next and then the next court date in March.
What i don't understand is why i can't now have more contact??? Why is she still in control. It has been shown that she is neglecting my child. I have repeatedly said that her b*****d son is smoking cannabis around my child. Everything i have said has been proved to be the truth.
Why doesn't someone do something?????
When i sent off the c100 and c1a i said it was urgent. That was in February. It is now December. If i get the oppertunity could i just take my child? Would that be a good idea? I saw her in the contact centre today, and she did not want to go back. This is just wrong.

hi,

do you have a lawyer? please consult with them. so part of the c100 process, they put you in a contact centre right? please stick to the rules and be patient until next hearing. if you speak to cafcass again, ask if you can see your child outside contact centre, before next hearing.

If someone is smoking drugs around your kids then call the police . Whoever is smoking will be dealt with by the police and they will not ignire it .They won’t mess about and as it’s a welfare issue they will automatically involve social services .