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In the new year I have a telephone call booked to speak to a lady from CAFCASS in advance of a court case on 16th Janunary
My Wife had made some really horrendous allegations against me and after social services investigated they closed the case. However she has a domestic abuse worker for some unknown reason and has stopped me seeing the boys. Even so I still went to see them play football and kept away from my wife. Despite this she phoned the police saying I had been threatening her.They took no action and I have requested a copy of the report they filed as I have been told she had been trying to get a non molestation order against me.
All very confusing as I thought we were happy until she dropped a bombshell about divorce and then in no time I had moved out and no contact with the boys.
Since seeing the boys only playang football for a few weeks my 6 year old became very anxious and started ccrying when I went to hug him saying his mummy had said he couldn't come to me.
At that point I wrotwrote to her solicitor about reinstating access and filEd a C100. Since then I have stopped seeing the boys at football as the last time my six year old ran away from me and hid behind his mum.
I have never hurt my boys but she is claiming all kinds of abuse. I actually think she is mentally abusing them now e en though previous to this I thought she was ag great mum.
How do I deal with CAFCASS as I am really angry now and won't see the boys at Christmas but don't know what way to play it as I am sure she is going to tell them a pack of lies.
I am also representing myself in court as I can't afford solicitors and she will be represented as she has managed to get legal aid
The advice with cafcass is that you don't sling mud at your ex wife. Keep it factual, and centred around your boys welfare. There are plenty on here who have had recent dealings with Cafcass who will be able to give you more up to date advice with dealing with them.
If you haven't already seen them, there are sticky topics at the top of the legal eagle section on representing yourself - it's definitely worth taking a look at them, there are a number of dads on here who have successfully represented themselves.
Thanks for the advice. I will take a look at legal eagle topics.
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