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Hi every one and a happy new year to all
I know its new year,s time and every body is busy with the family.i just want to share some information and will take some advice as well.i am going for a final hearing next week.Cafcass whole report is clearly to establish that the children wr enilated aginst me but the dark side is the recomendation for cards only the funny side is officer gave the refrence that if a child witnesses dv the contact cant be unsuccessfull.i did some reserch and found a topic of mr duglass head of cafcass who clearly said to telgraph in feb 2017.that 80%of family cases have elination based eventhough he gave some examples for sentencing the parent who elinates in other countries .i dont know the boss is saying its abuse and the workers doing totally opposit.i think we should stand up for our kids .I am taking mr duglas,article to court anf tell her what your boss thinks of it.this is what i wanted to share with you.If anybody could give me amymore usefull advice that would help a lot.
thmc
Happy New Year John123
I recall that article, by all means mention it, but I think you must be careful not to come across in the wrong way.
When you are given the chance to put your case across, you could agree that indirect contact is a starting point, but that it would be in the children's best interests to have this monitored and a schedule of progressed contact put in place, with a review hearing in six months time.
It's been tough for you, but you've stuck with it, and I really hope that the court will understand that the children are and always have been your priority.
All the best
ye mojo
i can understand where u are comming from?i will never cross the line but with due respect you have a right in ur defence?i had a problm with indirect contact when they didnt pass it to children but last night i went through her third statment where she said a sorry can work which ecactly i did but she didnt pass it on.one lasr question last year i had a fact finding arround this time but the judgemeng was totally bios to her.They still mentioned that i dont accept the judgement i think i have no choice to accept it ?sorry one more currently prohibited step orders are in place which were put on mutul agreement but now she wants them to remove what shall i do ?i think i should leave it to court and ask to decide whatever is best in childrens intrest i dont have prblm if cort thinks so? usually her solicitor approaches me before hearing and sometimes i think mojo honestly i shouldnt beg for a contact but when i see the majority of outcomes in family court isnt in fathers favour.what your thinking is if they offer supervused contact?
thnx
Yes you do have the right to defend your position, just as your children have the right to have you in their lives.... but sometimes it just doesn't work that way.
I think it's best to concentrate on your quest for established contact and choose your battles, if the court decide to remove the PSO then you may as well go along with that, being calm and reasonable is what is best for your case.
Having supervised contact would be a step in the right direction, I would always advise that if it's offered it should be accepted, as it's one step nearer to having a better relationship with your children. As I said before, accept what is offered and ask for monitoring and a firm schedule of progressed contact, with a review hearing in six months... it's going to be a slow process and you will need all of your patience.
We have a member that felt that supervised contact at a contact centre was really helpful in getting a good contact order, the staff at the contact centre saw how happy his child was to see him and how well he looked after his child, they gave him a really good report which was instrumental in getting more contact.
All the best
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