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Hi, after filling in the C100 6 weeks ago i have a call with CAFCAS on the 5th August. After this call how long is it until i will get the court date as a rule? i know CAFCAS do all the checks before court. My ex is going to make all kinds of lies up about me. What then happens? i have already had 9 weeks without seeing my son. At that point it will be about 13 weeks. What are my options? I presume she will tell all the lies then it will be looked into? at what point will the court make a order for me to see him. I'd be happy in a contact centre if i had too just to get that contact back until the lies are found to be untrue.
I am just looking for a timescale. I presume and know lots of women make lies up about ex partners.
Thank you
Hi,
ever since covid started, court hearing dates are more delayed. Have you received any court papers in the post? You could Ask Cafcass have they heard anything about a date for 1st hearing. Can also email or phone court. Chances are at the 1st hearing they will not allow contact if your ex is against it and has made allegations. I was in court shortly before covid kicked in, and whole process lasted 5-6 months.
Hi, no court papers, i have been to court for a non mol order. (all lies) which i am going back for late August. What i am trying to find out is what happens at the first hearing? do they then look into all the lies? and it drags on and on. It says CAFCAS do all the checks before court and i have no records ever a full DBS certificate etc etc. So it will be her say. Will it then drag out for weeks and weeks will the court let me see my son in between? thanks for advice
Hi
How old is son? Depending on age, do you have any mutual (or yours) friends/family who would be willing to facilitate contact and supervise it? Or consider indirect contact via video calls?
Hi, yes i do grandparents. The whole thing is a farce. I leave the home. She keeps the kids, i can't see them! it is a very very cruel system. With no idea when i am likely to see him either. Treated like a criminal when never put a foot wrong. I suppose what i am reaching out for is some sort of timescale and process of what is likely to happen along the line. What if i turn up to watch him play football for example? how would this look?
Hi
If there is an interim non mol then don't turn up to football.
As Bill says the timescales can vary, also if allegations of domestic violence are found against you then depending how serious they are you may need to build up contact via a contact centre or worse do a domestic violence course which can take 6 months to complete...
If the non mol has wording that allows contact via third parties for the purposes of child contact then grand parents could facilitate to at least get you seeing child in the meantime..
What are the allegations? Does she have any evidence/witnesses? Are you self representing?
Hi
If there is an interim non mol then don't turn up to football.
As Bill says the timescales can vary, also if allegations of domestic violence are found against you then depending how serious they are you may need to build up contact via a contact centre or worse do a domestic violence course which can take 6 months to complete...
If the non mol has wording that allows contact via third parties for the purposes of child contact then grand parents could facilitate to at least get you seeing child in the meantime..
What are the allegations? Does she have any evidence/witnesses? Are you self representing?
No evidence only texts that are arguments. No witnesses. Yes i am self representing i refuse to pay for a solicitor to run up debt and get nowhere. I will sort it to the end myself.
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