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I have a non mol against me that I am contesting and also now a enforcement order because apparently not only am I alleged to have been threatening and aggressive, but I am also apparently breaching my contact order.
I am contesting the non mol. Reason for all this is because my ex wife is angry with me because I have moved on with my life and happy and that my son when he is with me is also happy.
I had my interview with Cafcass today and it went reasonably ok, I will await the report.
What is concerning to me is that early part of this year my ex wife was emotional and mentally abusing my son and attempting to turn him against me. my son after our holiday and returning from him moms was really distressed and accusing me of things his mother would. He was saying things of an adult nature. I recorded this and his outbursts and discussion.
As I have done before I contacted children services, they got involved for a bit expressed concern and said they would investigate. I previously contacted them as she was telling me she was possessed and expressed concern but they said they cant get involved unless she agrees for them to. I also made contact with my son school expressing how his mother has a campaign of denigration against me these are the things he is saying to me can you please keep an eye on his behaviour and provide him the support, and that I requested a meeting with the DSL worker so that I can proving me parental responsibility and discuss my concrens.
I had also shared the audio recording with children services.
I have tried on a few occasions to obtain a discussion with their school but they have been deliberately it seems obstinate and have not bothered to get in touch.
It turns out today CAFCASS stated that on their checks they confirm that I have expressed my concerns to children services on a few occaions but they have also stated that the school have reported that I have been harming my son and have been involving him in adult conversations. I have nothing to do with his school and in fact I was the one who pointed out the concerns via email. Social also stated that I have been leading him in discussing adult matters in the audio and putting ideas into his head. Which is absolutely nonsense - my solicitor had heard this audio and was clearly shocked how they can come to that. Im baffled and at my whits end for raising concerns but finding myself being accused! its like they are working for my ex!
What can I do regarding the school because I have been unfairly treated here because they have never spoken with me, don't keep me informed of my sons progress and parents evening and after I have raised concerns and requesting they provide my son support have stated to social that I am perpetrating harm to my son. I am annoyed by this what can I do? anyone experienced this by biased schools?
hi,
i would suggest you dont burn yourself out with all this. socials are usually biased in favour of mothers and easily swayed. do not go to war with them, i dont think you will get any where. just focus on your next hearing, dealing with non-mol and getting a better order for seeing your children.
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