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I wouldn't get too hung up over getting all the evidence ready now. Highly unlikely it will be asked for in the first hearing. The first hearing is generally trying to see if a judge can get you to agree to contact and failing that determining what information they need to decide what is best for the child.
What is worth considering is supervised contact arrangements - contact centre / family member /friend etc. With the child sexual allegations it's highly unlikely you'll be allowed unsupervised contact at the moment whilst there are unknowns. Ask for supervised contact while the allegations are disproved. Don't think of contact centre as a negative as many do, it can work in your advantage - someone independent witnesses your interactions with your child.
What you should avoid is agreeing to anger management courses, building safer relationship courses - sets you down the route of seeming to admitting you have issues.
Also under no circumstances accept a non-molestation order if she requests one.
Thanks Spark. I am trying to take this all in my stride and be calm about it.
I know that none of this is true and just want to be ready to respond when ready,
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