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I've just received a C1a form from my ex wife. I served a c100 form on her. I did not serve a c1a form myself as I thought if there was a chance of her being reasonable then serving a c1a form would destroy any chance.
In the c1a form I have been accused of controlling her since we were first together, making her quit her job, not providing adequate care for our children, sexual abuse of our children due to them having symptom linked to this and much more.
All is complete rubbish and simply looks like big digs at me over hatred.
Any suggestions on the best way to deal with these accusations. I have a first court hearing in a few days.
They are some serious accusations!! I assume there is no child contact arrangement in place at the moment? By the sounds of it, based on the accusations your ex is making, these will be investigated by CAFCASS. A safeguarding and section seven report would need to be carried out. Do you have a legal representative for this yet?
My ex wife stopped contact a while ago but never justified the reason why. This will be the first time I have been to court.
There is no justification for any of the allegations, it is simply a hatred of me as a person.
I was planning to self represent and have got a McKenzie Friend to support me through the case.
I had my initial phone interview with CAFCASS earlier this week and explained the concerns from my side. THis was before the C1A form came in.
I've had the same but have had the first hearing. A second hearing (fact finding was called for) - my ex has been asked to put together a Scott Schedule before the hearing detailing the allegations, which also lists evidence she has that backs this up. This then comes to myself to complete - either accept or deny allegation and detail any evidence that contradicts what she says. You also get chance to add to the list with any accusations against her. Be careful and only use what you can back up with hard evidence otherwise comes across as vindictive. Remember golden rule - stay child focused and what is in child's best interests. Evidence can be facebook, youtube, social worker reports. Be careful with social media - best things are what the ex has posted. My ex posted on facebook - I love my family and picture of me with my child. According to her though I'd raped her the night before. Stay strong, they play these games to get legal aid.
I should have had a copy of mine last week but her solicitor is useless at meeting dates set in the court order. Its a game they play to delay proceedings.
I'm looking through the allegations at the moment and a lot are nothing to do with the children, even though they are complete rubbish.
I'm working through each one with evidence to back up why it is rubbish.
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