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That’s such a shame, I’m sure he would have had a great time. It’s quite common for kids of a certain age not to want to go off on holiday with their parents... perhaps when he’s a bit older, he may change his mind.
I’d talk to your son about it, let him know that as long as that is what he wants then you are ok with it too. If he is being alienated, he will be feeling bad about it... and very confused.
All the best
Unfortunately, this decision I fear will make my Ex now realise that if she can get my son to not want to see me, and create a scene at pickup (school), then I won't be able to see him or enforce it.
The issue isn't the passport, its years of negative influence, emotional/mental abuse. No one will do anything about it until my son can't cope and has an outburst at school. Children services were not interested in January when I made them aware my ex was talking to my son about [censored], She emailed to say my son told her he saw me having [censored] with my partner during the day, and I showed him indecent photos on my phone. He said to me that his mum met someone who knows my partner, and lots of men know her. All really disturbing. So in the end I take these allegations against me to Children Services, and they did not investigate or do a thing. They said they spoke to the school, and my son is fine at school, so they have no concerns. I met with the head teacher and they didn't receive a call from children services, but said they don't have any concerns about my son. If he had bruises, they would investigate, but if you think your child is suffering mental abuse no one cares! So sad!! Its no surprise that children self harm or worse!!!
I just have to continue being there for him, deal with his issues and hope that as he gets older (now 11) he is able to see through the influence....Another option is to contact a mental health charity to highlight this and see what they can do???
It’s awful for your son, but he knows you have his back... at 11 he’s old enough to have some insight into the situation with his home life. He will be feeling torn, he will be feeling guilty too probably, so you’re exactly right to understand that he needs you to be there for him. All you can do is to keep being his Dad, until he is strong enough to start speaking up about what he wants.
All the best
I know, thanks
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