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Firstly merry Xmas to you all, and a happy new year.
I've not had to post for a while, things not been to bad.
But have a question tonight and I knew who could help 🙂
My partner has a court order, its a year in. Mostly all OK, we often walk on egg shells and put up with control, but it's generally worth it.
Tonight we've had enough, he'[censored] a brick wall.
We've celebrated around Xmas with his children and the ex isn't happy with the day trip we took with them as a Xmas gift.
So she's revoked his extra contact over new year and blocked him. She's come up with pathetic reasons of why, but we know it's punishment, we've seen it before. As pathetic as it sounds it's almost like she can't stand to see them have too much fun with Daddy. 🙁
Anyway he's planning a meeting with a solicitor, but I like to get ahead of the game, we did all of his court proceedings in 2018 alone, all the paper work etc with help from here and other forums.
He didn't do badly, but he accepted an order that is not nearly enough time with children (30 hours a fortnight) and very grey with alot to be decided by hostile mother, when it suits her.
Thinking maybe he won't need a solicitor again? (not flush, but will use if at this stage it's advised)
So if he wanted to get a more refined court order, point out she's broken it at times, show why it doesn't work etc and
hopefully apply to increase times as the 8 and 6 year old beg for more time with him.
Begging her for extra time is exhausting and has her controlling our lives.
So do we fill out a C100 again or straight to a C79?
Also does he need another application to mediation? (which may I add she refused last time)
As everyone on here, just keen to save any wasted time that also means not seeing children.
He's missed too much of their young lives waiting for court dates.
Thanks in advance
hi,
you need to carefully go over the court order and confirm if the court order is actually being broken/breached.
if ex is disagreeing with stuff that is in the Recitals section, then you can not make a C79 enforcement application. my ex has messed around here and back-tracked on agreement within recitals, so I had to do MIAM mediation sign off, and a c100 form, to vary the order, ask for increased time. gov site let me file my c100 online. was very simple. this time round not using solicitors and throwing lot of money at this process again.
check the ORDER section, and see if she has broken any rules there. if she has, then use form C79 for enforcement. mediation is not needed in this case thankfully.
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