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Hi Guys
I have just been to court with my wife who placed a non molestation order against me with allegations picked out of thin air, the judge granted her the order and I have been advised to stay away for from my own house I worked very hard for.
I was asked by the judge to apply for a C100 as the judge declined my wife's request to not allow me any contact with my child.
My wife claims that I am a threat to my own child but has left me alone with him on multiple occasions as we did not have child care on a weekday where I stayed at home to be with him. She left my child with me (when he was not keeping well) for an entire weekend as she headed off to a business. Yet the judge granted her the non molestation order with all the other baseless allegations and the 100 meters order as well.
I am struggling and I am hurt as I have no access to my child
Is it possible to apply for a 50/50 custody?
Any advise please
Hi There,
It is possible to apply for and get a 50/50 shared care order and we are seeing more of them these days.
Make sure you don't break the non mol order in any way, as it will give your ex what she needs to make further complaints and slow everything down.
GTTS
Thank you
Hi there
It must be a very hard time for you, give things a chance to settle down and be kind to yourself.
Because of the non mol order, your application for a Child Arrangements Order will be a little more difficult, the court will want to take a closer look at your situation and will ask for safeguarding reports to be done. Once they are sure that you pose no risk to your child, they will want to progress contact. This might mean it will start off being supervised in a Contact Centre, but if you can show them that you are a good Dad, the court will hopefully move it out of the Centre and you will be able to spend time with your child in your own home.
As far as 50/50 shared care, you can ask for that, and as GTTS has said, the courts are granting these a little more these days... there’s no way of knowing if you will be successsful, it it’s worth a try.
Best of luck
Thank you
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