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Hi, my partner and I are about to split over various reasons, mostly to do with us not getting along and agreeing on issues, I'm not violent or nasty and never have been, I don't do drugs and only have a few wines here and there, however I do like to gamble on football and do win, my partner was happy about it when it helped buy prams etc and told me stop, however, I didn't and she says that she will stop me seeing my little girl because of this. Is that a valid legal reason for doing so ? I know I should've listened to her. I'm a good father to my girl and she has plenty of toys and clothes etc always has , and a nice home too. Any help on where I stand would be a massive help if this break up turns nasty and she moves away with our girl
Jimmyt84,
I am in a similar situation of breaking up with my partner and while I am unsure of whether this is a valid reason for stopping you see you daughter I am seeking legal advise my help and so will check.
I was always the one good with money in our relationship - always bought my son everything he needed, bought my missus a car, paid off her debts when she did buy things and couldn't afford it.
Now I am in situation that I will be moving out - she will get all the help and support and I will get nothing.
Good luck
Thanks a lot man. I know she will say that I jeopardized our girls future and therefore I'm not a responsible father and don't deserve to be her father. But I would always put her before me
Hi to both of you,
thanks for posting, I would say that your ex doesn't have a valid reason to stop you access due to gambling, I won't say that gambling is a good thing, but at the end of the day there are far, far worse things in life that could have happened.
For you both the first thing I would suggest is that you try and get appointments to see a mediator, this will be the first steps too getting things sorted and in my opinion should always be the first thing you try before looking into legal option.
The legal route can be stressful on all involved including the children and can take time, where as if you go through mediation, as long as both you and the ex are willing to give a little you can see instant results.
Also have a look at this link, as it will help build a plan of how to put the children first through the separation.
http://dadinfo.splittingup-putkidsfirst.org.uk/home
GTTS
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