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Oh boy, i am going through it with the father of my child. It's seems I can never win. We have a 3 yr old and have agreed to go half on nursery which is 150 a week. And mind you this is all he does for our son He doesn't pay child support doesn't help in Any other way financially. But so far it's been 2 months and seems every week it's always another story on why he doesn't have the full amount. He works and since the birth of our son I have handled it alone.
So I don't understand why it's so hard. And why I constantly have to track him down to even hear yet another bull excuses as to why ? He doesn't have the money. This his only son he says he loves to death but can't even do anything for him. How do I get him to take responsibility for his son..
Hi There,
This is a difficult situation as you have agreed to something and he isn't following through, as it's a private agreement there isn't an awful lot you can do unless he starts to pay, with regards to child maintenance why doesn't he pay if he's working?
One other thing, this forum is an open forum and all are welcome whether male or female (we have lots of female members) that said the majority of our members are fathers struggling through the system to get good quality access to thier children. all I would say is be constructive of the way you talk about your childs father so as not to upset people. I undersatnd you are going through it and you are annoyed at how he is behaving, but if your constructive and discuss the issue without it sounding more like your just slagging him off you will get lots more support from the forum.
GTTS
Realistically, what you have is a private agreement, and it simply isn't working. If your ex won't abide by the private agreement, then you option is to open a case with the CMS (will cost you £20) and let them handle it. The calculation will be around 12% of his gross pay (ie. before tax), and to get £150 per week from him, he would need to be earning around £65,000 per year. Any money he pays through the CMS is all he is required to pay legally - if he doesn't want to pay anything in addition to this, then there is no requirement for him to do so. So,, unless he earns more than this, you may find that he will pay you less than £150 per week - on the other hand, it hopefully would be more reliable.
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