Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hi all,
After getting a child arrangements order in October of last year granting me three nights one week and two nights the next and 50% of the holidays with my now, one year old son and four year old daughter, I'm back to square one. Mum has been difficult since the inception of the order with two reports to police for harassment (simple messages over the children's clothing, pram etc) and complaints to child services. Neither the police or child services have progressed with the complaints as they found there to be no basis for mum's complaints and the police deemed messages to be purely related to the children with no evidence of harassment. Mum, three weeks ago, withdrew total access due to concerns over drug use. She has effectively breached the order. Is there anyone who could PM me that has experience in dealing with such matters? I have no idea how to respond to this and having spent almost £10,000 getting an order, I'm not sure how much more I can afford due to the debt I've built up to date. I'm devastated not seeing our children who have had regular and extensive overnight contact with me for the last year and I'm keen to bring this to a resolution as soon as I can for their sake. Thank you in advance.
Hi there
You could try writing to her formally to remind her that stopping contact is a breach of the order and unless she reinstated it without delay you will not hesitate to apply for enforcement through the courts.
To do this you would need to submit form C79.you don’t need to use a solicitor, many members here have gone it alone with much success.
If you feeel you couldnt cope with representing yourself, you could think about using a McKenzie Friend, but do your research first, as they’re an unregulated body and there are some bad ones out there.
Others represent themselves at the initial stages and pay for a direct access barrister for the final hearing.
All the best
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.