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Hi all. Hopefully I can get some help on here as Im pretty unsure as what I should/can do.
Long story short.
I moved out or the family home in October last year for various reasons mainly arguing.
Me and my ex have a 16 month old child together
Since moving out I've had contact with my child every single day. I've not missed a day with her since she was born.
At first contact was around my exs house where I would look after her while my ex was at work this was 3 hours every weekday all day Saturday and 3 hours Sunday.
Things became difficult so I started to have my daughter around my house instead.
Not to long ago my exs changed jobs weekdays contact stayed the same but in weekends I had my daughter 8am till 8pm.
On may 26th my ex came to my home to collect our daughter she questioned me about a car out front I told her it was none of business she got in the car and sped off with our child 2 mins later she returned opened my front door and walked in kicking and screaming saying who's in the house! I removed her from my house she then turned around and said I would never see my child again!
She rang the police on me and told them i hit her when removing form my house! Few days later charges were dropped, But she managed to get a non mol based on this and a load of rubbish she had made up!
I've not seen my daughter in nearly a month now and it's killing me. What can I do?
Hi there
I'm sorry to hear you are struggling with contact. Unfortunately because there is a Non Mol in place it makes things tougher for you in this respect.
I would usually advise attending mediation, which is now compulsory, but the NMO makes this difficult. You could try writing to her solicitor and asking if she would consider attending, you could suggest shuttle mediation, this is where you would both sit in separate rooms and the mediator would move between you. Otherwise the only other option is to apply to court for a Child Arrangements Order for contact.
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