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Good evening all,
Long storey short do any of you dads have ex wife's or gf with mental disorders it's a nightmare the most recent episode is every year I go to Spain and my ex asks for ciggerettes (pack of 10) currently 50 euro and she pays me Β£30 Good deal right ?
Well this time she asked for ciggerettes while I'm away in Spain and I simply asked yes no problem can you give me Β£30 like always she responds "I think your taking the [censored] here I am struggling financially looking after kids full time go on go away" slams the door on my face ha?
I simply explain we are not a couple so why would I stress about β¬50 on my own holiday if she's not grateful I also have her other kid who is not mine sometimes but I get no respect for it,90% of the time I say yes to her requests but 100% is ridiculous who says yes to everything lol
Yes Iβm getting this as well. One minute Iβm the hero when having the children extra nights last minute when she wants to go out (we are 50/50 as it is) but as soon as I say no to something itβs like itβs a different person and the abuse starts.
Starting to think this is always the way it will be.
What do you think is it better I just accept who she is and deal with these episode's 2 or 3 times per year and keep my head down because I can only imagine my life will just be worse if I ever snap back or anything.
Earlier in the year she spotted me shopping at Tesco on my child free weekend and said "Oh I'm so lucky your here now I won't need to get the bus back home"
I said I'm afraid I can't because I have frozen goods to get home and she called me self centered and selfish lol
To be honest I think you have to accept it. There is a reason they are your ex.
Iβve learnt to deal with them by ignoring the messages of abuse, reply when your ready and only discuss the children.
Your lucky itβs only 2-3 times a year. Mines been at least once a month. Itβs only recently that Iβve learnt to not let it impact me. Iβve lost count with how many times Iβve been threatened with not seeing my children.
danbruno, you could suggest to her to ring CMS and complain that ex does not set aside a cigarette budget for her.
Wow all I felt all alone in this subject Iβm glad Iβm not alone
I would say 'what you allow, will continue'. The way I see it, you can either set firm boundaries and have a bumpy ride while that sinks in, or accept it and go with it.
I would say 'what you allow, will continue'.
Brilliant way of putting it π
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