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When I separated from ex 5 years ago I moved into a flat by myself. Kids were 13 and 11. I took them too my flat at weekends and extra non term times. My ex would sometimes go away for a few days and ask me to look after kids and dog in her house when she was away. I wasn't working then so thought I was doing right with kids.extra time with them.but recently I met a lovely girl and we had a baby,I moved in with her 70 miles away as my kids were now 18 and 16 I told them they can come and stay some weekends in new girls house and I'll visit them in their house or meet them.in my mums or sisters but I won't be staying over in exes anymore as my new baby needs me. Ex went mad and got solicitor involved after a few months of letters she gave up. Her demands were that I stay in her house for at least 4 days to look after my kids and dog! I said no as 18 year old old enough to do it now and I have to help with my new child.kids are visiting me now sometimes and stay over few nights and I visit them in their town. I have no contact with ex anymore.she had claimed in solicitors letters that I didn't want to see my kids anymore and I never helped her financially. I had gave several thousand to her to help with kids through a big claim.I feel betrayed by her.and she tells my kids it's my fault we fell out.
Hi there
I wouldn't waste any more time thinking about your exs betrayal....you've moved on and have a new partner, another child that needs you and two almost grown up kids that you see regularly....if they thought like your ex they wouldn't visit or want you to visit them. The best thing you can do is to concentrate on your children, be the best dad you can be to all three of them and leave your ex to her bitterness.
I'm surprised that a solicitor took it on in the first place, there's no way you could have been forced into agreeing to her demands legally, she wasted a lot of money and the only one smiling is the solicitor!
All the best
Hi There,
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I agree I can't believe that a solicitor tried to get an enforced "stay at her house" just goes to show what solicitors can be like if they are more interested in money then sense!!
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As already said concentrate on your family now, your ex isn't part of it, your children are old enough to make the decision to see you and you have a new partner and baby to think about.
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GTTS
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