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Hi
I have a new born baby as a father i am being blackmailed when i can and cant see my son depending on what mood my ex parter is in. she has said i am not allowed to come to the registry of my son so i am unable to put my name on birth certificate, Providing for my son is not a issue i have baby food and essentials delivered by Tesco. I would like to ask am i able to see my son or does she have 100% rights over me i know my son needs his mum more but surely she cant cut me out my new born sons life with blackmail. would really appreciate some info.
Hi there
The mother does have the final say about contact I’m afraid.
It’s quite common for new mothers to act in this way, it takes a little time for the hormones to settle after birth.
You don’t say how old your baby is, but I would suggest that you try and fit around the mothers wishes for now, if her behaviour continues after a couple of months, your first step would be to try mediation. If that fails, the mediator will sign the form to enable you to make an application to family court for a Child Arrangements Order.
The court process can put a lot of extra strain on the relationship between separated parents, it’s always best to try and resolve the problems between yourselves if possible... court should always be the last resort.
All the best
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