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hi all some help would be great just started filling in this c100 former my mind feels like I'm lost with it. I will give you some back ground information.
I split from my wife early 2013 due to domestic violence from her to me which I never reported at time. and we had 3 children contact was great at first then she met a new partner then so did I. the man she has meet is not a nice bloke she has had black eyes burn marks and bruises or the past 5yrs theyou argue and fight infront of children he has kicked them out the house in middle of night to stay at friends on numerous occasions smashed phones and other things. he has also throw a board game at my son and grab him while drunk as had ran off from him so he dragged him home. they have drug and alchol issues these are just a few things
I have been reporting to social services for 3 years with them just sending letters ando her denying it's happening.
in June this year my oldest son 12yrs old ran away from home due to a row with his mom in pub this was at lunch time he got picked up on a dual carriageway a few miles from home by a stranger and got in his car. and then pick up by police when stranger in car rangot them thank god. at 10.50pm his mom still had not reported him missing to anyone.
my son had not returned home since then and has moved schools and settled in with use in my home with my new wife and her children he has seen his mom once since then and that is only because I dropped him down. while collecting my other children. she txs him every couple of weeks. since him moving in with me sovial services has got involved due to my son running away from home and they have confirmed he has been emotionally abused and is very withdrawn and now is getting cousEling. since social services getting involved my ex wifew has stopped me from seeing and speaking to my other children and has been the police not to press charges just make them aware that she is terrified of me and that I'm sit ting outside her home and school everyday. the police rang me and asked me not to make contact with her or go near her and go down legal root. I had been to the school and she had seen me but I was driving in my car when she saw me. which social services knew I was going the school.
I'm now at my wits end I'm unsure what to do I would like all children to live with me full time but is this realistic to right this on the forms? ?
any help would be great and is this classed as anew urgent case??
Hi
It wouldn't really be suitable for an urgent application as your son has been staying with you for some time.
The form isn't as daunting as it seems & the sections where you actually have to write something only require very brief information. You can give more detail when you actually attend the first hearing.
You can just say that you separated 5 years ago, Things have been difficult during that time and resulted in one child moving in with you, that since this happened the mother has suspended contact with the remaining children etc etc
State that you are seeking an order for the children to reside with you. People tend to try and fit way too much info into those boxes.
You could try looking for an FNF meeting in your area, they might be able to help you with the forms if required.
Best wishes
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