[Solved] Another chance but worried

hi,

if your not sure what the environment is like, maybe you can ask social services to get involved, to see if theres any risk to the child.

Hi there

I certainly remember you T135TO! I know you can be impulsive too, so it’s important to take your time with this situation.

If you act now, you will run the risk of losing out on contact, although I understand your concerns I think you have to move forward with caution.

Does the ex’s home look neglected? Does your child look neglected, withdrawn or unhappy? Is she meeting all her developmental milestones? Authorities will look at the bigger picture, if your child’s home is up to standard and she looks well cared for and is hitting her developmental targets, they are not likely to take it further.

You are now in a position to get to know your daughter and give extra support to her home arrangements and your ex. Maybe your ex has found single parenting too hard and this could be the reason for her depression etc. Perhaps this could improve with extra support from you.

It may be her own fault that she hadn’t been able to cope, by pushing you away, but your priority is your child and sometimes involving the authorities doesn’t achieve what we expect.

It’s your call as you can see what is happening on the ground, and whether you need to act or can sort it out yourself. I would certainly talk to her about the safety of your child and ask what you can do to prevent any problems from escalating.

All the best

Hi Mojo,

I am not happy you remember me as it is for the wrong reasons..hahahahaha

My daughter looks beautiful, she is clean, tidy and has a lovely house and bedroom, however it does not mean she is not at immediate risk.

However what you have just said makes total sense and i will follow it word for word, thank you very much for informed, educated and grounded advice and i wish and hope this moves forward at the pace it is going.

I will not ruin it again,

I will also be back to advise fathers like me who have been in the same position.

Paul

good points from mojo. i had a valid reason to call social services. as soon as i did, it quickly became a game of [censored] for tat. ex said that i wont be seeing my kids until social services ring her and resolve the matter. lol, it only created more work and stress for me. i dont know how old your child is, but if they are suffering, they will tell you themselves.

thanks bill for your replies...i wont ruffle her feathers its best to stay shtum