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hi all ok , im very near my final hearing only 5 weeks to go now after about 18 months in court procedings ive had alligations against me by the load, not nice, cafcass recomended supervised contact center every 2 weeks for 2 hours, writern reports done, on me, all good i think, so that done contact again moved to suported contact with cafcass out in the town, were i live, so had reports done again, and all ok, no issues so back to court and again cafcass recomended yet again back to contact center, this time suported, again, and tbh with you guys its been a very very long hard and emotional trip, very..... im due to soon be out of the center as recomended by cafcass, on my own in the first time in over 2 years of trying to have contact with baby, my ex has made it so so hard, tbh, in evert way possible she has done every thing to me, and i still try being a good dad, that will not change ive had i dont think a finding of fact hearing, and like i say very soon back in court for the final hearing,, at last hearing the judges 2 of them said we want position statements on moving forwards,? and your stance on pr,,, i must say ive not got pr,,, even tho ive proven that im dad,, there is no dout there, my questions are to you guys is what can i exspect on the final hearing? my ex is being rep by solicitor ,, aid, and im doing this on my own,, and im not at all legal; minded,, so im guessing the exs solicitor will be giving me a hard time as the ex wants no contact,, and i think thats sad really any and all advive guys most welcom thanks
Hi there
It has been a very difficult road for you, but you’ve made progress and I really hope that the final hearing will go your way.
Have you started to prepare your position statement? Do you have a date that it has to be filed with the court?
You don’t need to go over what has happened previously, maybe a short paragraph t say that the contact has been going well and you feel that your child is ready to have contact progressed out in the community.
What they want is for you to lay out in your statement what kind of schedule you would like and how that would work, for instance how you would see handovers working to avoid conflict and what support you have from wider family, how that would benefit your child... forming a close bond with them. How you hope that in the future you and your ex might be able to put the past behind you and work together as parents for the benefit of your child.
As far as PR is concerned you want to show that you take your parenting responsibilities seriously, that you recognise the importance of being involved in your child’s education and would like the opportunity to be able to receive information about their progress at school and develop a relationship with the teachers..
Also that you would like to be included in making any important decisions regarding their health and well being and take an active role.
At the final hearing you should be given the opportunity to make submissions to the court, to make a summary of what has happened and make a good arguement for why your child would benefit from having you involved in their life.
Explain that you have done everything that has been asked of you and your child is developing a close bond with you, that can only benefit from progressing contact, to allow you both to develop your relationship,
further and spend quality time together.
It might be helpful to note down some cross examination questions, if you feel unable to ask them yourself, the judges should help with that.
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