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Hello I have a 10 month old son about to enjoy his first Xmas ,the mother is in hospital with mental depression but has a small visit on Xmas day ,basically I have to wait till she goes and her mum will give me the green light
Is the norm these days alternate xmases or atleast some contact time on special days ,I'm worried i will wait all year long for Xmas day and she will say sorry he's ill at the last second im assuming you need c100
Her mum is old fashioned and said mothers always have kids on Xmas day please don't tell me she's right means won't get a single Xmas day or is it a matter of keep applying till you get a diffrent judge
Alternate Xmas days are normal and Boxing day can be as good as Xmas day- plenty to look forward to!
Hi There,
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Christmas is a difficult one, if you were to end up in court, some judges believe that every other Christmas is acceptable and some still believe that a child should wake in thier own home on Christmas morning.
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There is no way of knowing which view the judge will have until you get to court.
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GTTS
The Judge sort of forced us to work it out between ourselves he wouldn't order alternative years ect we've now agreed that I will have our daughter on xmas eve drop her off late in the evening then mum has her xmas morning so she can open her presents with her sister I then meet them all at the ex's sisters house for xmas dinner then once we're done I take my girl home and drop her off when ever I go back to work.
It was a sort of unwritten rule that I have my girl on my birthday and the ex on hers I have fathers day and we sort of split our girls birthday, I'm not too concerned as I now have my daughter every weekend fri-sun I'm not that strict on special occasions as I see our girl that much anyway.
It's just anoying when you sit there and think you may never have a Christmas day memory with your own child, I would keep trying incase you get a diffrent judge,my ex has a knack for being overwhelmed as we get closer to special days to not handing him over last second ,we have a 4 year old aswell
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