[Solved] All swell that end swell

Nope,I saw my ex this week and could hardly sit in the same room, let alone look at her.
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GTTS

I've only just finished the nightmare process and have to see my ex weekly, throughout the process depite our nasty she was I often questioned could we have made it work and come back from this.

Now at the end of it all despite my good outcome in court I'm so angry and hate her for how she is the sole reason I've had to completely rebuild my relationship with my son and now my life while she has just carried on playing happy family's as if I never existed in his life.

I hope the anger and hate goes as just want to be happy in life with my son.

Careful with feeling angry at the ex, while the feeling is understandable, that's a trap and it will come back at you.

The amount of damage these women are able to inflict in our relationship with our kids and get away with is perplexing. Accusation after accusation based on hearsay and no evidence whatsoever, all the while dad is sentenced to see his child in degrading and restrictive conditions which he has to pay for.

The thing is, your kid still loves and needs his mom, in the same way he loves and needs you. If there is ongoing conflict between the parents, that is really hard on the child.

The biggest slap in the face your ex can get from you is seeing that after all the non-sense she put you through, you are better, bigger and stronger. Show up with a smile on your face, compliment her hair, show her that she can't affect you, I think that's the best strategy.

In time, things will be different, and our sons won't have to go through this.

I think I know how you feel.
For many years I'd have said that I'd found the perfect woman - there were warning signs but in the fog of the rose-tinted spectacles I don't think I saw them in the true light of day for the wood of the trees, or something like that. But we were so happy together, good for each other, decided to have children. I "had" many happy memories - they are all now completely ruined because of the things she has said, the lies she has told. I look at my life now and wonder if it was all a dream, wonder how things could have gone from perfection to this.
I sometimes wonder if I did win my case and she realised her lies were not believed if she would, in the absence of the children (as much as she has them now) ask for us to get back together. Maybe this is just wishful thinking in that there was a nice side of her, a loving and caring person who I'd at one point swore I'd have spent the rest of my life with.Now that I see her for what she truly is, I doubt I could ever feel the same way about her.
It's hard not to hate, to be angry, it's hard to rise above it all. The things she has said, in my eyes, are despicable. No human being should treat another human being like that. But then for the children's sake, you have to.
I know that I will never have more children - I will never allow someone to have that level of control over me again. I'm too old anyway and if my teeth get any longer I'll be chomping at my toes.
Court on Wednesday. Oh the joy of it all. Wish me luck guys!

Good luck Wednesday Paul and hopefully you get the result.

Yeah I know what you are saying Superprouddad there'd nothing gained by negative feelings and agree with you both that it's important not to inflict them feeling on the children.

I hold my feeling together pretty well and would never say anything infront my child. I have alot time on my hands at work and that'd when I often reflect on what's happened but when I'm out or with my son I'm fine. I've definitely learned that life is alot easier getting on with with the ex we have both been guilty of bit of arguing upon handover but not to much and i said last night can we now be at peace now court over and she agreed so fingers crossed. I draw the line at saying her hair looks nice lol her new man can tell her that I've got a date myself tomorrow night maybe I tell her instead lol.