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It's been a 2 year battle. Ex tried everything to deny/twart ontact with my lovely toddler. She made plans to end the marriage in a way to secure best financial advantage. Filing for nmo based on lies about DA. Application dismissed. Refused contact outside of 2hrs a fortnight in contact centre. When I filed c100,she filed c1a with repeat of lies. Fact Finding Hearing dismissed her allegations. Until DRA she stopped FHDRA ordered 4hrs a week contact at whim. I had to apply for enforcement.
Had DRA in April and got interim order for contact progressing in my home from days to overnights and weekend. Final Hearing in Dec. Whilst she tried to break my toddlers bond by preventing contact for many many months,, my 2 and half year old is very settled and happy in my care. I thought ex had come to terms that our children has a right to have a meaningful relationship with both her parents.
She arranged mediation for financials. She was not happy being told she would not be getting all proceeds of f.m.h plus all contents. Both parties need to fund a home for self and child as both parents share care. After that problems started with contact. First she cancelled contact session. At next contact, my toddler waved to me from front room window as I got out the car. But by time ex bought my toddler out, my child was very distressed refusing to come to me. Once we were in my car everything fine. At next contact, yesterday a repeat of distressed child but ex not sincerely attempting to calm and put into car seat. Throughout her brother was filming me and handover. After 15 mins got toddler in car and within a few mins all happy. However, Toddler said negative phrases never used previously in a year of contact in my home.
I feel very distressed. I believe that she is planning to stop contact and will be making false allegations to justify her action.
My question to All Dad's - should I ignore and bide my time till Final Hearing, or report my genuine concerns about risk of harm to my toddler to police / Social services.
I don't have solicitor she 's had one since separation.
Hi,
If Cafcass are involved with your case, you can mention any concerns you have in meantime. Hope it goes well at final hearing.
I agree it’s good to have a dash cam that you could have pointing towards the house during pick up; it will record how she is distressed leaving the house, but equally it will record her being fine in the car with you if the mic is running, so at least that will prove that things are fine when she’s with you. The system is against Dads on the whole, so try not to give your ex any reason to add to the stress. I also never understand how a mum can emotionally hurt their kids by keeping them away just to cause further ‘point scoring’ with the dad.
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