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Hi All. As you can see I am new to the forum but also new to being single dad.
Long story short about two years ago my wife decided to exchange me for a newer model (about 15 years younger). Anyway I do have two sons that are the most important little people in my life. All was reasonably good and we have shared the childcare equally until the day that I have found out that she aplied for different school than initially both agreed. We use to live in same town obviously but since the split I have moved away to different city which is close to the town that my oldest son is attending. Thanks to this and my younger son going to the same school we could both look after them without me commuting to and from the mothers home town. Unfortunately she did lie to me and aplied for the school in her own town knowing that I will not be able to travel that distance and will be able only to see my sons over weekend so 3 nights a week. The week she had a letter from the school confirming the place she did start an aplication for child maintanance as a main carrer. She not only did it for the money but also sent my son to much worser school.
So fare I have rang child maintanance and told them that we stil share the childcare equally as althought kids stay with her 4 nights during the school term they are staying with me during bank holidays and school holidays. I have also aplied for the diforce under unreasonable behaviour section and aplied for the order for the main carrer and specific order for my son to go to better school.
Is there anything else that I can do??
Hi and welcome to the forum
Please could you be a bit more specific about what you are looking for help with?
If the finance is going through the CMS, the divorce is applied for & you have contact....what is it you want to change? The contact? The school? If it's the school application, you can apply to the court for a Specific Issue Order. If time is against you with that, you could try for an urgent application which doesn't require mediation. Otherwise, you would first have to attempt mediation where you can discuss all the issues.
Good luck
Hi,
Thank you for the reply.
I have tried the mediation by she decided not to attend the initial meeting so aplication with the certificate went through to the family court.
What I am trying to achieve is my son to go to the best school within comutable distance between parents so I can look after them during the week. Also I do not want to pay the money that she simply does not should be getting through CMS as she does not spending them on my kids and still I have to provide clothing, school uniform etc.
All I would like to know is that should I do anything else other than aplication for specific order. Are any other ways to fight my corner. Any other things to do to help.
Thank you
Unfortunately, when it comes to the CMS, you have to pay what they tell you to pay. If you want extra support with CMS, speak to your local MP or CAB,
You can speak to the LEA to get extra information regarding the school application, but in terms of which school your son ends up going to, you will need to make a court application if you can't agree. The courts will choose what is best for the children if the parents are unable to agree, nobody can predict what an individual court would decide on the matter I'm afraid.
If she goes through the CMS for maintenance, the amount they have said you must pay covers everything...perhaps you should discuss with her the fact that you pay for a lot of extras, such as school uniforms, clothes etc that you won't be able to cover once you are paying via the CMS. Give her some food for thought.
I did you see but still ending up buying clothes as she sends them to me in old ripped clothes, I have reported this to CMS but still nothing happened.
Thank you for your reply. Really apprietiated.
Hi,
So I have aplied to the court for both specific order in which I have asked for the court to order that my son will go to the schoolthat was agreed and also to order that we will share the care over my sons equaly, I have had a letter yesterday and there is one thing that I am strugling with. This is the C2 form. Do I have to specify again what I want from court? Do I have to use the form? What should I put in there? First meeting is on 24th. Please help
So story continue. After a battle at court it has been decided that because the proceedings took so long the judge decided to leave my son in current school as he already has establish himself. I was also ordered that my sons will spend every third weekend with mother..... I have lost big time and really not trust the courts anymore as after all evidences I have provided including divorce and family breakdown due to her affair still court took her side...
The situation get worse as expected... After a four weeks after the order I have had a reports that my sons spends more time out than in her house. The school results are worse than before. My youngest son does not want to go back to hers and crying when I am taking him back to her house and at least once a week ringing me and crying over the phone to pick him up.. If not this is the worse after my older son came to me I have found some "weed" on him and some ecigarets... Then few weeks back I have had a call from my youngest that he run away from her house and hiding on some old cemetery!!!!!! I have called her to ask what is happening and was told to F...OFF as its not my business.. So I have rang police and went in to the car to find him after all this he spent few more days with me but had to come back due to school commitments.. In desperation I have rang social workers and explained what is going on and that my sons are neglected and left on there own ... and what?.... The social worker went to my older sons school asking him about drugs ?!?! So he is not talking to me anymore as obviously she use that to turn him against me as I have "stitched" him up.....
What do I do?????? Can I go back to Cafcass ?? Or anything else as social services are simply useless
Have you spoken to the school to see if you can get the school pastoral office to speak to your younger son - that will be confidential and might help him to open up a little.?
Hi there
It’s quite difficult, depending on how long ago the final hearing was, you could try writing to the court to request that the case is reopened and brought back for urgent new directions. Explain briefly what has happened, and how worried you are for your children. Across the top of the letter/email write - For The Urgent Attention of : (name of judge).
The court may agree to reopen, or they may advise you to make a new application to vary the existing order.
Best of luck
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