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Hello all,
Hope this is the right area for this, I separated from my sons mother back in 2010, now I try my best to keep everything civil between us for my sons sake,
We have split custody of him due to a court order put in place start of 2013, as my ex wife tried to stop me seeing my son after attacking me while he was in my arms.
Now since then things seems relatively nice, but when it suits her needs.
But she still playing games behind my back in regards to my son,
I.e Birthday invites she claims when he misses out, that I have not given her the invitation so she did not know about it,
And now today the school spoke to me as my son missed out on a school activity due to an apparent letter I had not passed over to his mum, to inform her of it. Upsetting my son.
I've spoken to the school several times saying this is her doing and every thing is passed over to her, but she claims its not being done. and the school tells me there not here to mediate between us, but its not fair on my Son.
How do I handle this without loosing time etc. with my son, as I have spoken to his mother about it and she denies she says anything to the school, but the next Min the school telling me different!
I have no way of proving that I'm handing Letters etc over unless I start having to get her to sign for them which seems daft
Hi There,
Do you collect your son every day from school, Maybe the teacher could send a letter home with your son, and then also hand a copy to your ex when she collects him (if she does)
The other option is most schools now have a text message or email service set up, maybe they could ensure your ex is sent one or the other to inform her of any trips.
Birthday invites may be harder, maybe you could text her that he has an invite to a birthday, then you will have the sent message to show you did send it, even better if you have a phone that gives delivery reports.
GTTS
This link might be helpful;
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