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Hello,
Just wondered if there is anyone who can help me with some advice.
I am separating from my partner & my daughter is 2 years 2 months old.
I think things may get nasty with me seeing my daughter but I'm going to do my best to keep it out of the courts.
My ex partner tells me if I'm lucky I will get every other weekend Friday night to Sunday afternoon & maybe once a week take her out for dinner one night mid week? Is this generally the case? I have done nothing wrong causing the separation & its actually me leaving her for one reason or another.
I obviously want to spend as much time with my daughter as possible, I have my own house that I'm moving into that is plenty big enough & a stable job with good earnings so financially everything is in place.
Does anyone have an experience of this at all that could give me some friendly advice? I'm worried that without intervention she will stop me from having her overnight at all...can she do this??
Thank you in advance guys.
I'd take a look at this - https://www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation
You need to try to reduce any conflict if possible for the sake of your daughter and your own sanity. Try not to get pushed into any situation where you will react, and bear in mind that if it does go to court, it will be much easier for you if she has nothing bad about you that she can put before the court.
Hi There,
There isn't a set standard for what you could get time wise, but having every other weekend and a visit mid week is quite normal these days, so rather than you will be lucky to get this should be the minimum you should get.
We are seeing more and more dads getting 50/50 shared care though so that is what I would aim for then anything over every other weekend is a bonus.
As already said keep calm and don't allow yourself to get caught up in arguments.
GTTS
Absolutely agree with actd and GTTS and respect that you will try and keep it out of the courts.
Perhaps you could think about trying mediation to sort a schedule out. Here's a link
www.nfm.org.uk
Mediation is the first step in the process anyway, if it fails you would have 4 months to decide if you need to apply for a Child Arrangements Order, for instance if she stops and starts contact for no reason and things don't improve.
All the best
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