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hi,
i think theres no harm in your son replying to the childs messages. depends on your sons emotional state. if he messages about the mother etc, then it can lead to trouble. on the other hand, if the mother cuts that phone contact, then that puts her in a very bad light in court. stopping physical contact and then phone contact.
Thank you Bill.....
The childrenβs school has been instructed to call the police if my son turns up....and they will obey mum.
It is unbelievable.....and yet they freely admit that mum was unreasonable when mediation was mentioned.
My son will not be told how the children are doing etc....there will be total silence from their end.
Sorry but we are duty bound to protect the children...yada yada yada.
That my son has parental responsibilities doesnβt make any difference.
I know the children will be distraught but I also know how long this whole court order process can take....I have tried to support my eldest son when he had to go through this some years ago.....
Mum is doing a grand job alienating the children......
Take care
Kirsten
Who has instructed the school to ring the police? Did the school actually tell you this? I would get an urgent application in c100.. skip mediation , I wouldn't expect a hearing to be urgently to be had but should be one within 6 weeks.
Because one of the children has some issues for with the school provides extra support, my son and I have
a very good relationship with the school and the teacher(s).
They confirmed that they have been instructed to call the police.....and they did advise us not to turn up
at the school as not to cause any upset.
My son then phone a firm of solicitors who also provide mediation.....he used to work for this particular firm
some time ago.
They phoned my ex DiL to ask if she would entertain mediation....something she categorically declined...indeed she told the person that she was ready to take things to court herself as she does not want her children to see their Dad ever again!!!
One of the children has a smartphone and used WhatsApp to contact us ( my hubby and me) from time to time....but also to have the odd rant about things at home....my husband has got messages which donβt paint a nice picture of Mum and I have messages begging me to let the child live here with us....
As soon as we can see the solicitor next week we will make all those messages etc available and see what can be done and if they are of any use....
However.....it would appear that we have all been blocked....! I suspect that Mum is going to get another number for the phone so the child canβt be contacted or contact us.....
Also we need to discuss a prohibited steps order to stop her taking the younger child out of the current school....the child has wonderful support and is (was) finally starting to make some progress.
Incidentally....a teacher has mentioned that she observed this child performing better in class when the child was with us as the child would be happier and far more willing to learn and certain results seem to support this.
Oh Good we miss them so much....they should be here instead there is this empty and silent space.....dreadful
Take care
Kirsten
hi Kirsten,
i would advise against using solicitors. cost a fortune and no need. in court your son could agree to pick up kids from school π
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