[Solved] Advice please !

This is why we always try and remind posters to keep their identities anonymous. Change details and never mention names, dates or places that could link you with an ongoing court case.

What you must understand is that anyone can register to join a group. This is a public forum and guests can read posts without even registering as a member. Closed groups can be joined easily, so your personal information isn’t safe in either type of group. By joining a group, open or closed, you are in effect giving up your right to privacy.

If the screenshots are filed with court, you are likely to get a dressing down, I would apologise unreservedly for any distress caused and assure the court that you have taken down all references, no matter how anonymous, on all sites and closed your accounts.

Best of luck

Thank you i really appreciate your feedback / advice !

I learnt very quickly early on in my split that my ex wood stoop to the lowest depths, stalking via social media etc…
I found FB quite an easy way to vent frustrations but very quickly learnt that it was also at times quite humiliating when a very close friend responded saying that they would unfriend me if i kept ranting like i was as i sounded like a madman psychopath.
I amended my privacy settings a few months too late for one post about my ex going to get her saggy old [censored] handed to her in court over the latest stunt…i went in to a bit of a rant on that one and it was screenshot by one of her spies at the time and shown in court.
The judge gave me a warning about that….i did say that nothing was slanderous as it was all true and proven but he wasn’t happy with me and told me to refrain from slagging her off.

Lesson to learn is regardless of how you feel and want to just don’t do it in writing for everyone to see….go bend the ear of a mate over a tea / coffee / Gin / Prosecco or whatever you want but don’t slag them off in writing….what if one day your kids saw it!

Oh i so agree ! I mean surely sites like this are the place for venting or letting off steam regarding our situations ! threats are always to far ! but good god we are talking about our children here and what we perceive as a lot of the system letting us and them down ! Better we rant and rave on sites catered for dads and mums fighting for our kids than screaming down the phone to our ex's lol

What interests me is surely using fake accounts , or having friends snoop on our profiles or on kids rights sites , is a breach of our privacy or data protection laws ?!

Regarding my own matter of recently slating my boys father , i have an order not to contact , harass or annoy him ! .... My feelings about him and what he is doing i have let loose on support sites about recently ! You know how it is , you ask for advice and then it all snowballs from there ! a lot of it you don't mean but emotions get the better of you when you hurt badly not seeing your flesh and blood !

I feel that the order against me is about no contact directly or indirectly ! Because no way have i went onto a couple of support sites thinking he would be there waiting to pounce when i posted whatever etc Nothing i have posted was done deliberately for him to see and never would i think to contact him again !

Sites like this are good for letting off steam, or getting advice as long as you do it totally anonymously, but the more you post, the more you are likely to give away your identity, or clues to it, if someone is looking for you - I have a perfect example of this in that many years ago, I was made aware of my ex posting on a public forum, and gave away enough info that it was identifiable as her (including kids names) - I used that against her when she didn't appear at a CSA tribunal and then wrote saying she hadn't been able to attend because she was ill, that was quickly dealt with as her postings showed she had travelled down for the hearing, but gone out with a friend and got too drunk to turn up.

Facebook is better if you keep your privacy settings under control and can absolutely trust your friends, but really, the best advice I can give is to keep any rants offline - rant directly to a good friend or go to a gym and have a go on a punchbag.