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Hi All,
Im new to the forum so thanks for taking the time to read this post.
I have been divorced for 6 years where my ex moved 180 miles away. During this time every 3 weeks approx. I have been driving there and back home (360miles) on Friday and Sunday to see my son. To be fair I have not found this an issue, just tiring,
He is now 7 years old and we both hate the drive and I have now made a decision to go drive their and back on half terms and holidays, so less frequent but better quality time.
Does anyone else do this? Has it affected their relationship with their child positively or negatively? Any thoughts, opinions or comments welcome.
Thanks again
Hi and welcome to the forum
I haven't had direct experience of this, but am aware of others who have. One option to consider, is could you visit your son in his hometown for a day at the half way point between school holidays? The cost of a hotel for example, might be similar to what you are paying in fuel for one of the return journeys? Just a thought......
Have you spoken to your son about this change to the routine? You say he hates the drive, but he might hate not seeing you more. What Yoda has suggested is a compromise worth considering.
If it's something that will work for you, you could suggest more regular FaceTime or Skype, to keep in touch between times.
All the best
I used to do a 400 mile round trip to see my kids every 2 weeks - did this for about 2 years - I'd leave at about 6am on Sunday to get there for around 9am, and then spend the day with them and leave around 6pm. It was tiring, but at least it was only one round trip each time - it might be worth you comsidering this occasionally between holidays, although the hotel option will give you more time.
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