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Hi everyone,
Me and the ex have been through endless debates and been court twice as she stopped contact and always wanted control.
I got my visitation order and been to separated parents scheme. Although I still find it hard to cope with her sleigh planning things when I'm meant to have my kid and the endless lies she makes up.
It has now come to asking my 2 half year old if he want to come to mine or not on the days when I have him. This happens when I turn up at the house! I find it so hard and completely disagree with the fact asking a two and half year old as they obviously don't understand and putting them on spot.
What do you lot think and is it wrong ?! this could end horrible and put things in a young ones head.
Hi there.
I feel that this is very wrong and your ex has an obligation to promote your visits with you, I know in reality this doesn't always happen but at this young age promoting the feeling that the child can choose whether they see you or not will only confuse things more.
My own history has been similar where my ex would arrange fun things that she would do while my son should have been with me, and it would result in my son wanting to stay with her rather than come with me.
I'm not sure what the answer is though I'm afraid as I found nothing I did changed the attitude of my ex and things only got worse the more I challenged her.
GTTS
Least I'm not the only one thanks for reply . Is there any where we can go for advice in this? Court isn't a option as costs so much! Already spent thousands and mediation won't exactly tell her it's wrong ! Just goes around in circles.
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