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Hi so a bit of an update.
So me and the ex talked mid September and we seem to come to an understanding that October was hard for me to pay for full amount and I was to pay what I can afford. Then I would pay the full amount November/December then payments would be lowered for 9 months in 2020. After this she agreed I could pay nothing as we have 50/50 shared care.
So yesterday comes and she’s asks “have you worked out how much you can pay me” to which I say x amount due to the bills I have this month.
Well she wasn’t happy with this, calling me, saying she needs the full amount and now can’t pay her rent. Swearing at me and demanding I pay or I don’t see the children.
I explained I will call to discuss but was told “don’t call as she can not stand to hear my voice”
I tried to call, no answer.
After work In the evening I get a text asking if I’ve sorted more money. I ignore as it’s my weekend without the girls and don’t need the stress after working and having the children all week.
23:15 I notice 2 miss calls, and a text threatening if I don’t answer then she will call my parents ([censored]).
I answer and was asked what am I doing about her rent. (She lives with her new parent but denies he lives there. My children tell me he’s there all time).
When I explained I don’t have it as I have my own bills and care for the children. Now again she starts shouting at me, accusing me of not putting the kids first and not stepping up to the plate. Saying I’m not to pick my children up Monday morning! Also saying she has told our oldest (7) about me not paying money and she’s offered her pocket money. This has upset me most as at 7 years old you should not be worrying about things like this.
In your opinions should I contact the CSA and get this all done officially?
Oh and now the false allegations have begun!
hi dadforever,
did you see our previous posts? yes you sign up for CMS, your not the benefits office lol. tell her to claim benefits/get a job and pay rent 🙂 put your phone on silent/do not disturb when you go to bed.
sign up. and if she still blocks you from seeing your children, then you should go back to court and get proper arrangements in place.
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