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Good afternoon all,
Im in need of some advice. 5 weeks ago my daughter was born. We named her and everything was good. Three weeks ago the baby's mother and her mother, kicked me out of the house and told me I could see littlen twice a week.
Ive seen my daughter once in almost 3 weeks! Today I was informed that they're registering her without me, they're not putting me on the birth certificate. They're also changing her name.
They wont return messages about contact with the baby.
They used me to do the school run while mum recovered from her c section. Used my wages to get the house in order, pay her bills and her loans off. She couldn't do this because she's been on benefits the past 6 years.
I cant afford the thousands of pounds it will cost to go through family mediation and the courts.. to top it off the mother and her mother.. are now saying that I'm domestically violent, abusive, a drug dealer and that I dropped the baby. All lies of course.
I am ex forces and do have PTSD which is also being used against me.
On the back end of all of this I got in touch with social services because the mother has a drinking problem. It was only last year I had to take a restraining order out on her because she was turning up to my parents house with her 3 year old (not mine) drunk and shouting abuse through my mothers letter box at 1am.
The police attended her residence and they actually confiscated guns from her property. The mother had been involved with a drug dealer who had asked her to hold onto them for him and she agreed. He obviously looked after her for it.
How is it despite all of that.. despite already having a child taken off of her (all things I didn't know prior to getting with her) im still the bad guy and I have no legal rights?
Any advice?
It doesn't sound like a situation where mediation will be that effective - if the mother won't attend or attends but won't agree, you can apply to the court and self rep. Plenty of our Dads self rep and it isn't as daunting as it seems.
From experience, I would say start the process sooner than later as it isn't quick & attempting mediation is mandatory.
A court application is £215
Good luck
If she has on record that she had guns in the property, and with the restraining order, I'd have a word with childrens services to see whether they should be involved at this stage, though I would warn you that your ex will likely go off the deep end, so be prepared for that.
I have a daughter who's 7 years now she lives with the grandmother an she has full custody over her my names not on birth certificate me an my ex split when my daughter was born as she got with someone else what can I do to get contact with my daughter as the grandmother isn't working with me I was going through a lot but f changes in my life an I've come the other side can I get help with this
Since she has full custody, I would think that the procedure is the same as if it was your ex, in which case you need to attempt mediation first (www.nfm.org.uk) - if that doesn't work, then you are looking at going to court for a child arrangement order.
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