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Hello all,
I found out in 2015 that after a one night stand was going to become a father...
This was unwanted, especially as the woman said she was on the pill and couldn't get pregnant due to medical issues. Now after no contact since then the mother has written to me asking for me to be named on the birth certificate! I had no say on the pregnancy and my only choice was if I wanted to see him or not. I had to put my son first as he's been through a lot with mine and his mums divorce.
I already have a child and have moved on with my life after what was a mistake.
What are my rights? Can I refuse to be on the birth certificate?
Hi there
What are your reasons for not giving your newborn child the right to know who his father is? I can understand it must be a shock for you and not something you had planned for, but it's not the child's fault and the repercussions for that child, growing up without knowing who his father is, can have lifelong repercussions for him.
If it's monetary then you would still be liable to pay maintenance whether your name is on the birth certificate or not. She could open a claim with the CMS and you would have to dispute paternity and pay for a DNA test to prove you were not the child's father to close the case.
If you don't want a realationship with your son and it is nothing to do with the financial side of things, no one can force you to be in the child's life. At least your "son" knows who his parents are, your other son deserves the same in my opinion.
Your son also has the right to know his brother too.
I don't wish to be harsh, as I said, I can understand that it must be hard for you, but I do feel for the innocent child in the middle of this. I do hope you can reconsider and try and think of it from your new sons perspective.
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