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Hi all,
I'm new to this so bare with me.
I'm looking for some advice. I broke up with my sons mum around 17 months ago and we shared responsibility each week 50/50. I paid maintenance each month (an amount agreed by us both) since the separation. Around 3 weeks ago she started demanding more off me to which I refused. She has now contact CMS and has told me I'm not able to see my son as often. Stating that instead of the 3/4 times its now going to be 1/2.
I'm unsure what I can do and wanted some help? I have PR (parental responsibility) for my son. As always, money seems to the cause behind this.
No court order is place and I just wanted to know if anyone had a similar experience and what the outcome was. All I'm asking for is to see him at least 3 times a week.
Thanks
Hi and welcome
A lot of people seem to experience a drop in contact when CMS are involved when the resident parent realises they will get more money be reducing contact.
Beyond agreeing between yourselves, the other options are mediation, and if that doesn't work, then a court application.....
Thanks for the replies.
She's openly refused to attend any sort of mediation. Its a real 'grey area' all this and unfortunately, I have to suffer. My ex doesn't drive so im also the one who does all the picking up and dropping off and now im wondering if I should start asking for her to collect him.
Thanks
Hi there,
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If she has stated that she won't attend mediation, then there is a strong chance that if you arranged it she wouldn't show, if this happens then the mediator would sign your C100 court application and you could apply through the courts for help.
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GTTS
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