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Hi just looking for some advice please.
I split with my ex for someone else as the marriage was basically non exsistent ie, i would help with daughter then go out most nights cos if i stayed home we would just argue and slept in the spare room every night.
All i want is to see my daughter and have her come to my house but she only allows access if she can dictate every move. Im not allowed to introduce her to my gf or her son and if i go against her she denies access completely and turns it on me but when me and my gf split for a month due to lies she told i was allowed round every day and take her whenever i wished. I just want to know as we have mediation booked. What i am entitled to ask for access wise as this is killing me not seing her.
The point of mediation is that there are no fixed rules on what you can ask for, but you need to have reasonable expectations. I would set out your wishes for contact beforehand - possibly go for a bit more than you expect on the basis that you have some leeway to compromise.
Hi There,
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As actd has said there are no set amounts of contact, that said dependant on age of child every other weekend seems to be a good level, with either phone contact mid week or an evening mid week to spend time with.
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Going into mediation or court with an expectation of getting a lower amount than you are asking for is always a good idea as you will show you are open to compromise so as actd has said ask for more than you are hoping to get and then you can drop down without losing out.
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Your ex isn't able to dictate who you see while you have your daughter or where you go so ensure this is covered that said there are some safe gaurding to tick off, but I'm sure they aren't going to effect you, so as long as you aren't putting your daughter at risk of any harm whilst you have her, then you should be free to go any where or see anyone you want too.
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