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Hello,
just after some advice!
im recently seperated from my wife, well since August, she’s kicked me out making it very difficult for me too see the kids unless it’s on her terms! I’ve had a hard year tbh! Had too finally bite my tongue and find my biological dad for the sake of my 2 kids for health reasons! Unfortunately I was 3 months too late in meeting him cause he had passed last August! But it was through a rare generic heart condition! I’ve been having tests all year long! And thankfully don’t carry it! My life left me during these dark times! I said if you can’t make me happy find someone else! She did 2 days after kicking me out! Secretly going behind my back and seeing this new guy! Then she “ghosted” him and we tried and then after I had sorted all my own problems she wanted too give it a go! Was fine for a week no argueing etc and then suddently she didn’t feel that spark( the one you get in the honeymoon period when you first date) and decided too get back with this fella! It’s confusing my kids cause she’s saying too my 4 year old daddies might back for good and then this new fellas around the house and seeing my kids more then me! Even though it’s only been a 6/7 week relationship and 2 break ups! She suffered bad with post natal depression with our first and is on meds for that and now with our 1 year old I think she has pmdd( effects the hormones when on the blip) she’s pushed everyone away and thinks it’s normal too start a new life! She’s even saying he’s moving in which I ain’t happy with! Don’t wanna take the kids away just want guaranteed days and not only on her times! Do I get socials involved! She keeps saying you’ll only see them in court! But changes her mind a few days later! I can’t promise my boy when I’ll see him again anymore cause she’s made me break that promise several times! There’s a lot more too it but just wanna know how courts work! Or is there another method! Don’t wanna be causing all this agg, especially leading up too Christmas! Just want too see my kids as much as possible! Missed my girls first steps and the boy starting primary school! She needs therapy I think but it’s abusive when I suggest this! Can’t do anything right!
Hi,
when was the last time you had contact with your kids?
if she insists on court, then if you put an application in now, you will likely get a date for 1st hearing in January next year.
is she willing to make informal arrangements for now, so you get to see them over xmas?
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