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NEED HELP!!!!!!.. I've recently split up with the wife and as luck goes lost my job a week later. My housing situation isn't great at the moment (friend's sofa). but location being only a few streets away from my kids is ideal as i had to give my company car back when losing my job. Up until last week i was able to pick the kids up from the house and take them to the park when dry and a cafe when not. But last week me and my ex had a row after i dropped the kids off and no matter how much i plead with her she has stopped access to my children and the only response i have from her is go see a solicitor if you want access. Now with no job, no money and xmas only being a week away there is no chance of going down the legal route to get access in time to see them over xmas. Is there a template which i could use to be able to send my ex a letter requesting such times and dates i could be advised on please. I am close to the edge and can't even consider the thought of not seeing them over xmas. It's already been one [censored] of a long week.
Thank you
Hi There,
There is no template that I know of, I would just write a letter ensuring you are polite and courteous (even if you aren't feeling that way) explaining that you really need to see the children and that they need to see you, explain that at short notice this close to Christmas there isn't time to involve solicitors even if you could afford them at the moment.
Say sorry for what caused the argument (again even if you aren't) as you will be sorry about the end result which is not seeing your children.
hopefully she will see sense and back down.
send the letter recorded delivery so you know that she will have received it.
Try not to call or txt her and don't just turn up at the house no matter how much you want too as she may take out a non molestation order on you which will make things a lot harder to get moving.
Keep coming back here and talk to us, we are here for help and support throughout the Christmas period including Christmas day.
I will be checking the forum Christmas day periodically so if you are feeling low post and I will answer.
GTTS
Thank you. I'll keep you informed.
Agree with the advice above.
Hopefully she will come round once she's calmed down.
Unfortunately without a court order, there is little you can do to force her hand.
Perhaps suggest that you try to agree something for Christmas and that you could attempt mediation together in the New Year to make sure you both do the best by the children.
In any case, attempting mediation is mandatory before you could apply to court. You don't need a solicitor to organise any of this for you.
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