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HI all,
This is my first post, be gentle..........
My ex partner and i split at the beginning of 2017, we have 2 boys, now aged 7 and 14. I received regular access from the day of the split, 3-4 days per week whilst she worked etc, average 5-6 hours per day. I met my new partner at the beginning of may 2017, this went down like a lead balloon but still i had my access. At xmas we got engaged, and since then i have seen my boys 3 times. My ex immediately stopped me from seeing the children as i became engaged. We had an agreement regarding maintenance money, she also immediately rang the CSA etc.
Long story short, im paying Β£450 per month in maintenance, and i have no problem paying for my kids to live. However im paying her Β£450 a month when she doesnt let me see my kids simply as i have a fiancee and am happy. I have a clean record, have never beaten or abused or hurt my children, there is actually no reason that she should be able to stop me from seeing my own children. However, im also spending a fortune in solicitors fees to regain access, so i just wanted to ask, as i am not able to see my children is it right i still must pay her this money?
I understand that as the CSA has stated this is what i must pay, then thats how it is, but i just wanted to get another perspective on this, as to me it just doesnt seem right.
Thanks all.
... We're always gentle π
Unfortunately, whether you see the children or not, you're still liable to pay maintenance for them. Contact and maintenance are two entirely separate issues and one is not dependent on the other.
The CMS would make a reduction on the amount you pay for each overnight the children stay with you, seeing them all day wouldn't count, it's calculated on overnight stays only.
The system does seem unfair, and some mothers will reduce overnight contact to increase the amount of money they receive from the other parent.
Best of luck
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