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just wanted to do a post to say thanks for the support and information on this forum
i will remain active on here to participate and advise others in a similar boat to me
so 9 months after i started jouney ...lol just a coincidence.
a total of approx £3000 including legal/contact centre other other expenses as the solicitor was a friend so i did leg work and there wasnt a final hearing
6 hearings total
here is my outcome . I must ad it was primarily based on my shift pattern of work, thats what the respondents barrister used to deal and judge looked at primarily.
I went in for my son to live with me (worth a try) or a 50/50 shared care where by my son lives with me thursday afternoon to monday morning and with his mother monday morning to thurday afternoon. The respondent didnt agree and contested in her statement making an alternative proposal of weekends only and alternative weekends when my son goes nursery
The outcome was more based on her proposal but i got a couple nights extra
this is what i got
the outcome was that my 2 yr old son will live with mother,
and based on my shift rotor ..even though i live at home and have the support of my parents
1) I get contact saturday all day and over night until sunday 5pm for next 2 months
2) Then from august, friday/saturday/sunday . drop of either sunday 6pm or monday 8.30 am depending on my shifts . every weekend. for a whole year
3) starting September 2017 contact to be friday/saturday/sunday for 2 weeks. and the alternate 2 weeks i get 1 day during week few hours but no weekends , due to nursery allowing him 2 weekends a months with both parents (although she will have him during week aswell which i though wasnt fair but judges decision was final). i get to drop him to nursery 2 mondays a month from the sunday overnight stay.
4) pickup location was near to respondent due to travel by bus so i couldnt contest much
5) special occasions/birthdays equal time
6) we must get written consent with 21 days notice for travel abroad and notify of travel destination /return times etc and time to take him abroad must be sacrificed on a give and take basis between us.
7) parental responsibilty automatically allowing me rights to medical/education information
What do you guys think...is it fair. im happy with it uptil next year but only alternate weekends and a few hours during the week 1 day is a bit unfair??
Thanks for posting an update 🙂
Whether it's fair or not, it's a starting point, and hopefully next year you can build on this and start to increase - your ex may just realise that if you have more time, then she also gets free time to enjoy herself, it's a hope anyway.
I think his age has a lot to do with the courts decision, at least you have an agreement in place now and as actd says this can be built on.
It does seem strange that the court has reduced contact after a year and I think it would be resonable for you to reapply to have this varied in a years time.
For now you can build your relationship with your son and hopefully enjoy regular, stress free, quality time together.
All the best
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