HELP ME in November my wife told me she was seeing someone else ,we have 2 children, 10 and 12,,,,she now wnts me to move out of our home and go and rent somewhere ,,,,,,after she told me it made me very ill so seeked refuse at a friends house to get me straight mentally.i returned on the 15th of December,,,since then i have tried many things so we can go our separate ways, today i suggested we sell the family home ,she agreed this morning,it would be for the best ,,,now she has changed her mind and thinks i should move out,,,,,WHAT DO I DO ?????????? HELP
Many people here would tell you under no circumstances should you move out, but sometimes the situation can get so toxic that there's no other option. Do you have a spare bedroom that you could move into?
Once you move out, she can prevent you from seeing your children, she can apply for an occupation order to remain in the house until the children are 18, so it's probably in your best interests financially to stay, but emotionally it carries a heavy price.
If you are on the mortgage then even if you leave you are still liable for the repayments and if your wife isn't financially able to take over the mortgage and other outgoings, you may get left with having to pay.
It's a tough time for you and it's probably in your best interests to get some proper legal advice on where you stand. Be very careful not to antagonise the situation with your wife, she can allege that there is domestic violence and get you out that way....it's more common than you think.
If you do move out you may not be able to see your children on a daily basis as you do now. If you moved out you would need to be able to accommodate your children for when they stay overnight with you.
Consider the extra expenses you may have to pay such as child maintenance, your rent if you rented and probably half the mortgage payments if you have one in joint names etc.
You need to look at your financial situation and be aware of what assets you own and what equity there is in the house which is your right to have. It may be necessary for you to take steps to safeguard your finances. Important for you to do as you have a life to live after all this has been sorted out.
I would strongly suggest you seek legal advice before doing anything. Some solicitors offer a free 30 minute consultation if you don't already have a solicitor.
l would tell her that you are looking at your options at the moment, and try to keep it as civil as possible, but you need to give yourself a short while to collect your feelings so you don't do anything too hasty at the moment. It's certainly worth getting legal advice, at least initially.
Hi there ,,,thank you freshboader ,this is so scary,,,its not right how men can be just thrown to one side ,like this,i have asked her to agree to sell the house,,so next step is to value the house,but she changes her mind so much, thank you
I agree that you need to take some legal advice, things like this can easily slide and you are either left paying half a mortgage to a house you don't live in, or at best having all your money tied up in a house that you can't release.