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I suggest you prepare a position statement for the hearing as well. Keep to the facts about the difficulties with contact, giving dates if you can. Also the issues where you disagree with Cafcass. Write in numbered sentences and just one page if possible. It's unlikely they will agree to a supervisor from your side of the family so is there anyone else from her side?
@champagne no there isn't anybody else who is willing to do it. So on their say so my family will never be able to spend time or meet my son.? He is missing out on so much. My mum is retired now but did work alongside child safeguarding in her role working in mental health in the community. My sister qualified as a foster carer and is a special needs teaching assistant and has been asked to sit on the board of governors to represent parents. One brother delivers healthy food to schools, and is an under 7s football coach and the other works for the local council and is an under 14s rugby coach. All have responsible jobs, and work with children.
It could be adjourned and its difficult to comment without full knowledge of the case, but you can draft a statement giving the facts and why it shouldn't be adjourned. State what isn't working and what contact you've had against what was ordered. Also correct the Cafcass statement. Keep it factual and don't point blame on anyone.
@champagne adjournment was not allowed, the hearing went ahead and I won the appeal. Barring order has been lifted and a new cao has been granted with a sec 7 to be completed by August with specific requests for Cafcass to deal with. One of them being whether Maternal grandma is an appropriate person to supervise moving forward. This I believe may be due to the fact that by her saying she only wanted to commit to 2 hours. How could there be any progression. It's been 2 hours for over 3 and a half years. I had a mackenzie friend with me and it was as if I was a completely different person. Their solicitor came and shook my hand on seeing me something she hasn't done in 5 years of courts. She also stated she agreed there had been an error with the barring order etc. But it was them who opposed progression and wanted the barring order putting in place.
Well done. Hopefully you will have more contact moving forward. Shows its good not to give up hope
Well Done. Can you get a solicitor to work with you on this. I find if one side as a solicitor they tend to take over. My family have been through all this with accusations being thrown at them, and the constant lies. Some of which are totally unbelievable but they get believed 😳. I’ve had a child arrangement order in place 10 years, I upset my ex by catching her out on a lie and now she’s stopped contact, I won’t see my child now if ever again, until at least September, this is after us seeing each other every week for 10 years. It just should not happen. I feel for you all.
Update any idea of its likely that the judge will go with the cafcass and icfa recommendations. Last court hearing in October it was agreed and in the order that paternal grandma was a suitable person to take over supervision. For family to work with icfa to introduce child to paternal grandma . Icfa work has now been completed . Their recommendations are to start with paternal grandma starting with 2_hours supervision out of the 4 hours dad sees child from next week and to progress from there . Unfortunately maternal grandma who has lives with order has refused and has said she will continue to supervise and will not allow father and paternal grandma be left alone . ( there are absolutely no true valid reasons for this ) the Last recommendations by Cafcass in October were that contact was to increase to 8 HRS . Maternal grandma has also refused this . So contact has stayed between 2 and 3 hours . She has informed icfa that the child should choose and say whether he wants to see paternal and he doesn't . Will the judge be likely to side with the recommendations or the maternal families requests. Thank you
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