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I am a Father of a 20 month old little girl called Sophie-Louise.
Back in April 2011 i separated with Sophie's Mother which was a nasty break up as i was charged with assault after claiming self defence which didn't wash with the Courts.
I pleaded guilty to grabbing my Daughters mother and pushing her so i was placed on a 2 year suspended sentence which i am now a year through.
My daughters mother placed a 2 year injunction on me where i can not have contact with her till august 2013 yet in no way does this effect me having or being a parent to Sophie.
I brought up my ex partners 2 children for 2 years and she never had any issues with me being a step Father to them.
My ex partner Sophies mother was a complete control freak with me and made my life very difficult and unfortunately she now uses and controls me with denying me my beautiful little princess in my life who i have now not seen in over a year and as many off you can understand this is breaking my heart as well as its unfair on my little girl not knowing her real Dad.
I just feel really hard done by and i have tried contact centres where my ex has not turned up or she has cancelled my visits when i am halfway there, she has made up constant lies and accusations about me which has hurt me and i have come to a point where i am sick of having to keep fighting each lie upon lie.I have had a Solicitor who has written to my ex over 70 times now and we had a court date back in feb but the night before i was due to go i read the report where my ex partner again had disclosed false information and lies within the report and i got anxious as i did not want to face my ex or be in the same room after what she has put me through so far and i felt yet again why me! why do i have to proof myself when i know i am a great father and always want and hopefully will be again.
Surely a Father should be able to see his daughter with out having to stand in a Court of law because my ex partner is lying and controlling and making up all sorts of false accusations! i ask where is the justice for a man that just wants to be a daddy to his little girl? if anyone is or has been in a similar situation then it would be nice to hear from you. many thanks for taking time out to read this.
Hey ,,
I read your story and see the same thing that has happened to me and many others ... X partner wanting to control what we do control us ,,, we separate then they use the children as weapons to still control us .... When they can't control us they stop access and lie about who we are in court .....
Your daughter might be young and I feel your heart ache but write letters keep a copy of each letter .... Just things like what you do happy stuff how you miss her and look forward to your future going in holidays together and other stuff ..
Never say anything bad about her mother always be the better person ,,, and most of all dig in and get ready to fight for what you want ..... Keep focused don't get low and talk to your friends who will help you through tuff times ...
I'm strong believer that if you want something bad enough you can get it .....
Be carefull with solicitors I've had many problems with them charging me and not getting anywhere fast ,,, in fact families need farthers helped me more with what forms I needed to go direct to court ..
If she does not go to mediation then you can be granted an fm1 this allows you to go direct to a court with a c100 for access ,,, do this as quick as you can it does not cost much ....
Never give up
Hi mate, sounds really hard. You'll fnd loads of stories like yours on this forum. Read through some of them and you'll get more advice like Woody's here.
Good luck and keep us posted.
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